I don't really think 5 mins in that context is considered late.

Have you considered that he may feel awkward and uncomfortable around you too. It takes some men a long time to warm up and he may just not be able to make small talk.

I can relate...for some reason I don't work well when people are standing right over me watching my every move. Like the other day Db came home early and insisted on me and the baby being in the kitchen watching him cook. He decided he no longer liked how we had been feeding her with a bouncy seat on the counter. When the baby got fussy I took her out and sat her on the counter with me holding her and she grabbed a glass and broke it. Tia never would have happened if I were by myself doing things with a backseat driver.

Anonymous wrote:I can understand him being annoyed at your lateness, no matter how much you're ontime on other days doesn't make it ok. Even if it was a mistake, it shows the boss that you don't take it seriously, even if you do.

The thing is, I wasn't late. Younger charge had to be somewhere at 3:00, and he said, you can meet me at the place at 2:30. We got there at 2:35. It didn't jeopardize my charge making it to her thing on time, and I also texted him as we left the house and said "We are leaving right now, sorry for the delay." I understand that I didn't get there EXACTLY when he told me to, and I apologized for it as soon as we got there, and instead of saying "oh it's fine we still have plenty of time" he said "you need to get here earlier" in a really condescending way.

I can understand him being annoyed at your lateness, no matter how much you're ontime on other days doesn't make it ok. Even if it was a mistake, it shows the boss that you don't take it seriously, even if you do.

I would just ignore it. He's probably looking down on you because he's miserable and ignorant. If it's really bothering you, maybe leave some type of hint of you and the childrens day. For example, on his birthday, have your charges make him a homemade birthday card or cupcakes..

Get the kids into finger-painting, arts and crafts, etc and maybe leave a picture they drew on the fridge. Things like that to reassure the asshole that your kids are happy, entertained and do fun activities.

I think it's more to do with his personality, or maybe you're just feeling insecure? Or a little of both.

Sounds like a douche. Just try to do your job, and respect him while having minimal time with him.

Whenever DB decides to come home early, or meet me and the kids somewhere, or work from home, I feel so uncomfortable and the kids completely act up and it leads me to make some kind of mistake every time he's around! Not huge mistakes, granted - and I definitely make up for it by being a terrific nanny the rest of the time, but he always seems to be looking down his nose at me and only noticing when I mess up.

When I was 5 minutes later than I said I would be to meet him somewhere with the kids, he said "you really should try and get here on time" even though he doesn't know that I managed to help the kids with their huge amount of homework, get them changed, feed them a snack and get them back out the door right after school in record time. He only sees that I was late and that I messed up.

When we came home from school the other day and the kids were both in grumpy moods, and I am usually amazing at cheering them up and getting them back on track, but this time dad was home and so both of my charges were completely in tears from him intervening and getting on their cases and not letting me handle it. He completely throws off our routine and I feel like it reflects badly on ME!

MB likes me but I feel like DB only ever sees me messing up again and again and again. Whenever I try to have a friendly conversation he talks down to me and won't really engage me. I don't really see him that often but when I do it just makes me feel awful!

Sorry, I felt like I needed to vent.