Op here.. I was fired. When the mom came home she started to yell about what an ungrateful "little cunt" I was and that I had four days to clear out. She also said she plans on reporting me to my agency and plans to search my stuff before I leave.
Apparently the older child has been telling the mom lies about me including slapping her in the face, talking on my cell phone to my friends all the time, claims I called her names as well as her younger siblings and her mom, claims she caught me going through her mom's underwear and that I was wearing a pair of her underwear. She even accused me of stealing HER underwear and saying I am a pervert. None of these allegations are true and I am a bit hurt that the mother would believe this... child over a grown adult. The girl has told me beforehand that she hates me, wishes I would die and that she doesn't need someone to watch her since she is.. an adult (in her mind). I have contacted my agency and have not heard back. Scrambling now to find immediate residency and what to do next. Tonight was very awkward.

Anonymous wrote:Did the brat hack into your email? If so. call the police and your HF should punish him severely.

If the family "fire you" and you go into rematch I would totally do this ^^

Anonymous wrote:OP, rematch. The kid who hacked your email is going to continue to find ways to create problems for you. She is an evil little bitch. This is not a situation that can be salvaged. Get out now.

I wouldn't have used that language, but I completely agree. Salvage it temporarily, I guess, if you want, but it sounds like that kid is going to be no end of trouble for you.

Anonymous wrote:OP please let us know what happens when you talk to your HM.

+1

OP please let us know what happens when you talk to your HM.

OP, rematch. The kid who hacked your email is going to continue to find ways to create problems for you. She is an evil little bitch. This is not a situation that can be salvaged. Get out now.

"What I write in private to my parents is none of *charges name* business, or your business. I was going to bring my complaints up to you at a later time."

Good luck, hope things go smoothly with the conversations. I would just be sure not to be too defensive and be calm and professional about it.

I think that everyone has vented about their jobs at some point, but it's a little bit different dynamic because this job is so personal - if you were sharing details about their private home life or something that would make your parents feel like they aren't good people, etc. that could get very personal for them.

I hope it goes calmly and you can have a good discussion about how to make the situation better, and also put some limits on your privacy.

Anonymous wrote:your fault for leaving your email open. have to log out. if it's your personal computer, put a password on it.

It was on my personal computer in my room. I am not sure how she knew the password but I did not leave it open or on their computer. I have changed my password. I feel very violated in that I feel I am going to be fired or reprimanded for a private email. The child who did this is 13 years old and never told no or what to do as her mom and dad thinks it will break her spirit and that of her brothers. I am still waiting for the mom to get home but I will stress how it was just a bad day and that I needed to vent and that I am now upset over my loss of privacy. I have also written an email to my agency in case things go bad.

Wow!!!!!!

That's AWFUL! I'd bring up MANY points.

1. This is in invasion of privacy
2. You're allowed to vent about your job (just like everyone else)
3. You were talking to your parents, not the CIA. Who cares?

Be prepared to quit.

"Yes, I do have complaints about my job. I'm happy with _______, but I have issues with ______. I was venting to my parents and to seek advice. That is my right. Snooping through my email is an invasion of my privacy, and I refuse to put up with that. Leaving it up was my fault, but this is ridiculous"

your fault for leaving your email open. have to log out. if it's your personal computer, put a password on it.

This is a tough one, and I think (as an experienced HM) that a good open conversation with the parents after the children have gone to bed, ideally with the LCC present, would be in order. There are two specific things to address, and you want to make sure BOTH get addressed and not just have everything get focused on what you wrote.

First, it's essential that you together talk about the child going into your email account. Whether you left the computer open or whether he hacked in, this is serious either way. If you decide to stay with the family, you will need either your own account on their computer that is password protected or you will need a lock on your door if he went into your room and read your computer. It's that simple.

The second thing, though, is that you're unhappy. Or, if you're not as unhappy as you sounded, then that you are somehow interested in folks at home thinking you're unhappy. Either way, you need to sort this out for youself and decide what you want to do about it. Are there things HF can do to make things better for you? Are they happy with you or unhappy as well? It may be a hard conversation to have, so this is why I suggested you might want the LCC there to help structure it. you don;'t want this to turn into them accusing you of writing mean things. You need to address both issues - the boy reading your emails and printing them out (and leaving them on the counter) AND the fact that you are or at least said you are unhappy. For you to move forward with the HF, both need to be addressed. Good luck.

Did the brat hack into your email? If so. call the police and your HF should punish him severely.

You'll have to just be very honest and open with them. Tell them where things are are serious as they seem and where they aren't. My prediction: you will end up in rematch. You're not happy with them and they know it. But if this is at all salvagable it will be through a real open honest heart-to-heart.

The oldest child read my personal emails and printed them out and showed them to his parents and my host mother left the printed out emails on the kitchen counter this morning saying we will talk about it after she's home from work tonight. The personal emails were to my parents complaining about my job. I don't really think as poorly about my host family as the emails sound. Has this ever happened to anyone else? What should I do next?