Anonymous wrote:As a MB, I don't think this changes anything that I would ask a reference. Not sure why I needed to know this.

This post is for people who are less ethical than you.
Just as there are crappy nannies, there are also crappy parents.
Former employers can be a very valuable asset in the process of weeding out the bad apples.

The best families want their former nannies to enjoy continued professional success.

OP, your post doesn't make sense.

As a MB, I don't think this changes anything that I would ask a reference. Not sure why I needed to know this.

Thank goodness for decent former employers!

Anonymous wrote:One of my former families cares so much about my happiness, that whenever a potential new employer calls her, she calls me up to tell me what she thought of you. What you asked, what your tone was. If you were at all inappropriate with any particular question. She tells me if you seemed respectful of my work. Bottom line, if you didn't sound worthy of me, you will not be getting me. That's how much I trust this woman.

I have former employers who do this as well. It's nice knowing that I have another set of ears during the interview process.

Years ago I had 2 former employers call to warn me about a woman I had interviewed with. The disrespect this potential employer showed my former employers caused me to turn down the position. Fast forward about 5 months and I ran into that family while vacationing with the family I ended up working for. Wow was I thankful for my former employers for warning me about this woman. She treated her husband horribly. Her children were miserable and the nanny was getting ready to quit. The whole situation was dysfunctional due to this woman and her behavior/attitude.

Thank goodness for staying on good terms with former employers.

You are another gem MB. They are out there, but so often hard to find, just like the gem nannies.

I would ABSOLUTELY do this for my nanny, and was aware that her previous employers were sort of interviewing me when I called for a reference. I totally respect it from all sides and think it reflects well on everyone when this happens.

K

One of my former MB's does this too. It's nice to hear what someone else thinks about the potential job and family from what she hears on the phone, instead of just from what I tell someone.

that's great. you must be a great nanny for your ex-MB to be watching your back like this.

One of my previous MB's does this too. She actually warned me against a family that called her for a reference. Apparently they asked my former MB if she thought I would be willing to clean curtains, banisters, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, Gwyneth. So true, so true. Thanks for posting.

Thanks. But I am not Gwyneth. Sorry.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, Gwyneth. So true, so true. Thanks for posting.

Thanks. But I am not Gwyneth. Sorry.

Wow, Gwyneth. So true, so true. Thanks for posting.

One of my former families cares so much about my happiness, that whenever a potential new employer calls her, she calls me up to tell me what she thought of you. What you asked, what your tone was. If you were at all inappropriate with any particular question. She tells me if you seemed respectful of my work. Bottom line, if you didn't sound worthy of me, you will not be getting me. That's how much I trust this woman.