Anonymous wrote:MB tried to do this to me, she wanted me to take both DCs plus their friend to activities 3 days a week. She's a lazy SAHM and wanted some me-time. Sorry, can't fit 3 car seats in my car MB!!

I can't either and that is how I got out of carting along one of the kids' friends to an outing last week when they were on break from school. I was pissed that she just ASSumed I'd do it and never even asked me.

MB tried to do this to me, she wanted me to take both DCs plus their friend to activities 3 days a week. She's a lazy SAHM and wanted some me-time. Sorry, can't fit 3 car seats in my car MB!!

OP here. Just spoke to the mom on the phone and found out she has a 3yo. I did not get a good vibe from the mom. She kind of cut me off towards the end of the conversation and said she would speak to the other mom about pay. Ugh this is annoying

We started doing drop off playmates at around 3 or 3.5. Once the kids are old enough for a drop off playmate, it is not appropriate to charge more. At age 2, especially if the child is not potty-trained, it is appropriate to ask the other caregiver/mom to stay or to arrange for it to be more like a share.

for that age, playdates are not drop off. You need to talk more w/ OP to determine if this is designed as a playdate (sounds like not) in which case the other mom needs to stay or as childcare for the friend. If it's the latter and it is occassional, not regular than I agree that a pretty high additional tack-on rate seems warranted to avoid her doing it all the time for just a few extra dollars.

So if it were a FT share, you might charge $16 all week, but since it's just a few hours here and there, $2/hr is not reasonable - I agree that $10 would be since you are providing spot childcare and that's hard to come by.

Anonymous wrote:If that mom is just using you for free babysitting, then yes, tell her your rates. If she invites your charge over, during the
next week, then it's a true "play date".

Yes a true play-date is when BOTH care-givers are present. OP, I would be annoyed if I was constantly stuck with an extra kid but if it's occasional then no, you shouldn't expect extra money.

Anonymous wrote:If I were you I would ask for at least 8-10 per hour for the additional kid if it wasn't just a playdate.

+1...definitely don't let them get away with pawning their kid off on you even once without extra pay or they will take advantage.

If I were you I would ask for at least 8-10 per hour for the additional kid if it wasn't just a playdate.

OP here. Thanks for the advice! Can anyone help with an appropriate pay? It's not a true nanny share because one family has 3 kids and the other 1.

At that age (2) the parent or nanny/caregiver should accompany the child in order for it to be considered a "playdate" otherwise you are just babysitting another child.

For that young age, you would have extra work. Definitely charge more. When they are older and can play independently, that is different.

If that mom is just using you for free babysitting, then yes, tell her your rates. If she invites your charge over, during the
next week, then it's a true "play date".

If it's going to be a regular occurrence I would speak with your employer about being compensated.

I once had a family that would invite playdates over 3-4 times a week, without notice or paying me extra. So happy I'm not working for them anymore.

I recently started a 1 day per week nanny job looking after 3 children. Recently mb asked if it's ok for her friends toddler (2yo) to come over on somedays. I don't think this would be a weekly thing. We discussed this idea briefly before I started during a phone interview. I was thinking it was going to be a nanny share, but I never met the other family... I've only been with them for a few weeks. Currently I charge $14 for 3 children. 2 of the children are not with me the entire time.I pick them up from pre-school and Kindergarten later on in the afternoon. Does anyone have any experience with this? Should I ask the girl's mom to pay me my normal hourly rate for her? Should I expect extra compensation? I haven't had time to talk to mb about it because she asked me via text.