Anonymous wrote:This is a question for an advice columnist, not a nanny forum. That said, I think you should let it go unless someone brings it up, at which point politely and firmly explain that in the nanny world, nap times are break times so while you used that time to juggle your other responsibilities, you still believe that to be appropriate time management - then smile and excuse yourself.

Just drink a lot to get through the awkward holidays - that's what the rest of us do!

What the heck is your deal? Why are you telling everyone their posts aren't relevant when they very clearly are?

This is a question for an advice columnist, not a nanny forum. That said, I think you should let it go unless someone brings it up, at which point politely and firmly explain that in the nanny world, nap times are break times so while you used that time to juggle your other responsibilities, you still believe that to be appropriate time management - then smile and excuse yourself.

Just drink a lot to get through the awkward holidays - that's what the rest of us do!

Tell her that as she was not part of the employee/employer situation, that it really is none of her business and that her sister was not acting professionally. If the one you worked for had issues with you, that is between the 2 of you. Remind her that there are always 3 sides to a story, and she has only heard one, which is not enough information to make any kind of opinion about the situation.

I worked for my cousin for a short time a year and a half ago and it did not go well. To give a little background, my cousin is about 15 years older than me (in her forties) and we have never been really close, only seeing eachother at Christmas. When she had a child, her and her husband asked if I would nanny for them (I had nannied for 3 years prior). We were both excited about the opportunity to get to know eachother better. Things quickly turned awkward. Two weeks after I began taking care of her 3 month old, her husband began working from home. Soon I began to realize that her husband was telling her lies about me being on the phone all day and basically neglecting their child. His basis for the phone comment is that I was working a second part time job, since I only worked for my cousin 3 days a week, and I got a lot of phone calls from that second job. Having said that, I would only return or take calls when their child was sleeping which is my break time. After 2 months, we parted ways and I haven't talked to my cousin since. Recently, I found out that she had complained to her sister and her sister told her that I was an employee whom she was paying and needed to confront me about being on the phone all day (which was fabricated by her husband). My question is, I have to see her sister (my other cousin) at Christmas and really want to let her know that I would never do what her sister told her I did. Should I say something or just let it go?