What happened to reading kids before bedtime... no I think it's DB being lazy.

Perhaps that should be the alternative you propose.

Where I am from kids dont poay with ipads or phones. That is wh we hae kids going around and shooting kids... At the end if the day it all starts like this. Kids should be playing and being creative, not playing a fucking video game or anything alike, and you parents just think it is totally ok for them to play on the ipad and right before bed. Only in America kids go out in public shooting people. Go figure why....

Anonymous wrote:You're right. I don't believe in screentime right before bedtime. Who in their right mind does?

His father. Put the kid to bed, leave, and ler his father deal with him.

what the hell can you do on an iphone for 2 minutes anyway?

i think this is about the milk thread.

"disobeying orders" omg stop

Anonymous wrote:is this because of the milk thread?

+1

This reads like a troll to me.

If it isn't...does the child actually have a difficult time falling asleep after playing on the iPad? If so, tell the DB and suggest a better time for DC to play on it. If not, why are you worried about it? Let the kid have his time if it isn't having any immediate negative effects.

Seems to me this is a direct request from your employer. If you want to discuss it with him that's fine, but to ignore/disregard/refuse isn't.

As the PP meant (I think) - this is subjective. This isn't physically endangering the child and I (as an employer) would be really ticked off if you went again an explicit request/instruction.

is this because of the milk thread?

I can see the PPs points, but at the same time, as a nanny I have always had certain rules or practices that were important to me, and have been given leeway for that. One charge was allowed to fall asleep watching TV every night with his parents, but when I would stay overnight, I always got him to sleep without TV. It just took some cuddles and singing and he would be out like a light. Unless your boss told you that you HAVE to give him the iPad for exactly 20 minutes, I think you are well within your rights/a reasonable amount of leeway for you as the little one's nanny to develop your own style/relationship/systems. Kids know that X has this rule but Y has this one.

Screen time before bed may not be helpful, but it's not going to danger the child any to let him do this. Listen to your BOSS. He's got that name for a reason.

This. If the kid is going to sleep after playing with the iPad for 20 minutes then he isn't being overstimulated. There is no benefit to the child in questioning this. It only looks like you want the kid to go to sleep 18 minutes earlier so you get a longer break while he's sleeping.

Can you move it to the beginning of his bedtime routine, say before teeth and pajamas?

Do as your boss says. I agree with you, but this isn't something to have trouble ove with.

The best interest of the child here is objective. Screen time before bed may not be helpful, but it's not going to danger the child any to let him do this. Listen to your BOSS. He's got that name for a reason.

You're right. I don't believe in screentime right before bedtime. Who in their right mind does?

Of course you are wrong. If the DB told you that the kid can play on the iPad for 20 minutes then let the kid do it. There is no reason for you to override it because you don't believe in screen time.

My DB tells me to let my charge play on his IPhone for 20 minutes right before bedtime. It's part of his bedtime routine!
I only let him play with it for 2 minutes because I learned watching screens before bedtime stimulates the brain.
Am I wrong?