Anonymous
12/13/2012 03:22
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
OP, I have a super-perky nanny who sounds a lot like yours. We have opposite personalities and come from very different backgrounds. I'm certain we never would have talked to each other in high school. However, she is fantastic with my child and she is able to introduce my child to activities that I, as an introvert, would never feel comfortable doing. Sure, she gets on my nerves but we complement each other most of the time. Send her out with the kids on a fun outing when you need a break and ask her if she could just keep the volume down a bit. Happy children means a happy mother in the end.
Anonymous
12/13/2012 01:24
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Give her 3 weeks notice and take care of your own kids.
Anonymous
12/13/2012 01:20
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Anonymous wrote:Oh brother. OP, my guess is that you are a major introvert and she is a major extrovert. I am an introvert with a few close extrovert friends, and let me tell you, I can handle them in small doses only. It sounds like the real issue is that her personality intrudes into your mental "space," and you feel drained trying to interact on that level. If that rings true for you, then you need to talk to the nanny about it. Be frank. "We really value you and love how great you are with DC, but when I am stressed, I really love to have quiet alone time, and I worry that having to share a house with you and DC 1 during maternity leave with make it hard for me to get any relaxing, quiet time. Can we brainstorm some plans/solutions?" Maybe you can sign DC1 up for a class or find some other fun things to happen during the day, or set up a play area in a new part of the house (like a basement) where she and DC1 can play away from you and the baby. If you are up front, she should be understanding. If you are in the kitchen eating lunch during the baby's only nap that day and she comes bouncing in and wants to talk your ear off, just smile politely and say, "It's nice to see you, X, but I am really worn out. Would you mind letting me just eat lunch in quiet? Have a great day!" You can ask for what you need without being rude.
Thank you so much! I think what I was saying has been misconstrued, I'm definitely a person who needs alone time.
Anonymous
12/13/2012 01:18
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Anonymous wrote:Wow!! You're super ungrateful. Hope your next nanny screws you over big time.
Please, I never said I wasn't grateful. I write the checks, I'm VERY grateful. I only mentioned her personality annoys me. Dislodge the stick from your ass.
Anonymous
12/13/2012 01:06
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Oh brother. OP, my guess is that you are a major introvert and she is a major extrovert. I am an introvert with a few close extrovert friends, and let me tell you, I can handle them in small doses only. It sounds like the real issue is that her personality intrudes into your mental "space," and you feel drained trying to interact on that level. If that rings true for you, then you need to talk to the nanny about it. Be frank. "We really value you and love how great you are with DC, but when I am stressed, I really love to have quiet alone time, and I worry that having to share a house with you and DC 1 during maternity leave with make it hard for me to get any relaxing, quiet time. Can we brainstorm some plans/solutions?" Maybe you can sign DC1 up for a class or find some other fun things to happen during the day, or set up a play area in a new part of the house (like a basement) where she and DC1 can play away from you and the baby. If you are up front, she should be understanding. If you are in the kitchen eating lunch during the baby's only nap that day and she comes bouncing in and wants to talk your ear off, just smile politely and say, "It's nice to see you, X, but I am really worn out. Would you mind letting me just eat lunch in quiet? Have a great day!" You can ask for what you need without being rude.
Anonymous
12/13/2012 00:07
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
*Nice instead of I've
Anonymous
12/13/2012 00:07
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Why would you do this to your kids? You sound like a selfish bitch. I guess you missed the memo about doing what's best for your kids? What's wrong with you? People come on here complaining about abusive, lying, unreliable and unengaged lazy nannies. And you're complaining because you are a bitch who can't stand I've people? You should keep this nanny so that hopefully your kids have a chance, being around someone like you all day will make your kids unpleasant just like you. Trust me, your nanny isn't happy with you being home all day either. She will likely try to go to the park 8hrs a day just to get away from you.
Bitch.
Bitch.
Anonymous
12/13/2012 00:02
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Wow!! You're super ungrateful. Hope your next nanny screws you over big time.
Anonymous
12/12/2012 23:57
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
I see both sides of this. As a nanny I once quit a job b/c I couldn't stand the mother. MB and I were VERY different people and it just didn't work. The kids were wonderful and I really liked certain aspects of the job, but I truly couldn't stand working with her...she was a SAHM. When I take on new jobs I try to make sure that the parents are people I like/respect...especially if one or both of them is around a great deal. We're all happier that way.
Now for the other side. You say she is great at her job. You had many positive things to say about her. Are you really willing to let that go at the expense of your children? There is no guarantee that a new nanny whose personality clicks better with yours will also have the same great qualities (work-wise) as your current nanny.
I get how important personality can be, but before you take the drastic step of replacing her see if there are things you can change about how you react to her that could help ease the personality clash. If it truly won't work then you need to do what you feel is best. Good luck and congratulations of the upcoming arrival of your new little one!
Now for the other side. You say she is great at her job. You had many positive things to say about her. Are you really willing to let that go at the expense of your children? There is no guarantee that a new nanny whose personality clicks better with yours will also have the same great qualities (work-wise) as your current nanny.
I get how important personality can be, but before you take the drastic step of replacing her see if there are things you can change about how you react to her that could help ease the personality clash. If it truly won't work then you need to do what you feel is best. Good luck and congratulations of the upcoming arrival of your new little one!
Anonymous
12/12/2012 23:47
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Anonymous wrote:OP, fire her so she can work for someone who appreciates het. Your next nanny should be the wicked witch.
OP, I kind of agree with this first sentence (minus the typo). I mean, you're NOT appreciating her personality. Look, if Fran Drescher interviewed to be my nanny, the nasal whiney voice would totally drive me nuts and I wouldn't hire based on that (never mind all the other issues). Some people just don't click, and you two just don't click. Maybe put out an ad for a baby nurse who's interested in transitioning to a nanny to three and see what bites you get. You may find out the current gal is the best fish in the sea. And if you keep her, you can say "It's great that you're so peppy and laugh all the time but with the new baby I'd like to have a calm, quiet household for its first few months so could you tone it down a notch" and see if that helps.
Anonymous
12/12/2012 23:20
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
OP, fire her so she can work for someone who appreciates het. Your next nanny should be the wicked witch.
Anonymous
12/12/2012 23:08
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Anonymous wrote:Can I have her??? She sounds perfect for young kids.
+1 maybe you need to let her have a family who will actually appreciate her.
Anonymous
12/12/2012 22:45
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
Can I have her??? She sounds perfect for young kids.
Anonymous
12/12/2012 22:23
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
The issue you need to think about before even "is it fair to her?" is "is it wise to do this to my kids?"
IF she's otherwise an awesme nanny, let me tell you , they are NOT easy to come by.
IF she's otherwise an awesme nanny, let me tell you , they are NOT easy to come by.
Anonymous
12/12/2012 22:19
Subject: My nanny just annoys me
My nanny is great at her job. She loves the kids, the kids love her. She always goes the extra mile, fun trips, creative crafts, and even baked goods but I can't stand her. It's just her personality, it clashes with mine. I'm sarcastic, very dry and she's this super peppy happy-all-the-time cup of sugar. Her voice is an octave only dogs can hear, she laughs about EVERYTHING, and not just a slight chuckle a loud obnoxious ear splitting laugh. It's really no her, it's me. I'm too hard to please, and generally not a people person. She is non stop talk, she reminds me of that girl from band camp. I can deal because I'm rarely with her, but I'm about to have another child, be on maternity plus start working from home. I know this makes me an awful person but I don't know if I can make it, nothing against her at all, she's a great nanny but she drives me nuts.
Would I burn in hell for firing my nanny just because she's too perky for my taste? Yes? Yeah, I figured.
Would I burn in hell for firing my nanny just because she's too perky for my taste? Yes? Yeah, I figured.