Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies,

MBs may seem like we have too much on our plates and have no idea what is going on in our house sometimes but we know and notice a lot more than you think we do. Two messages I want to get out.

1. We know. I notice everything down to which stickers are gone in the sticker book, how much snacks go to you vs. kids, when you are being extra attentive because I'm around vs. how you are when I'm not around. I know when you make little white lies even though I let the moment pass.
2. We expect you to be human. We expect you to eat when you are hungry (and eat than the kids more because you are bigger), have bad days when you just want to surf your phone and serve the easiest food.

Please don't lie to your MB, even about the smallest things. Please don't put on an act when MB is around. It's ok to be human, to have good days and bad. As long as you are honest and treat the kids as you want your kids to be treated, you don't have to be perfect 100% of the time.

Maybe we expect you to be a little bit better (such as no TV with you) than us since you get to go home at 6pm and have "my time.." but not much better. We are parents and we know what it is like to look after them first hand.

You can't give the nanny at least a half hour break a day and let the kids watch one cartoon? We spend more time during the week with your kids than you do and need a break too.

uh.. no. you can get a break in other ways. If they are young, they nap. If they are older they will play independently for half an hour.

Anonymous wrote:The "my time" response is especially classic-like nannies don't have their own children or families to take care of. They just sit around all day fooling their bosses to go home and eat bon bons on the couch. Actually I feel silly posting this because OP is an obvious troll (I knew it wouldn't take too long for them to fish out the new board) and the best daycare for her kids would be called The Little People Under the Bridge RainbowSnark Thomas the TrainWreck Small Wonders SemiHuman School.

OMG. You are way off base. Sounds like you need a vacation because you are fed up with your own MB. OP sounds legitimate to me. I am totally turned off when my nanny tries to brown nose me by being extra attentive to the kids. It seems totally fake. Nannies admit doing this on this board too.

The "my time" response is especially classic-like nannies don't have their own children or families to take care of. They just sit around all day fooling their bosses to go home and eat bon bons on the couch. Actually I feel silly posting this because OP is an obvious troll (I knew it wouldn't take too long for them to fish out the new board) and the best daycare for her kids would be called The Little People Under the Bridge RainbowSnark Thomas the TrainWreck Small Wonders SemiHuman School.

Anonymous wrote:Nannies,

MBs may seem like we have too much on our plates and have no idea what is going on in our house sometimes but we know and notice a lot more than you think we do. Two messages I want to get out.

1. We know. I notice everything down to which stickers are gone in the sticker book, how much snacks go to you vs. kids, when you are being extra attentive because I'm around vs. how you are when I'm not around. I know when you make little white lies even though I let the moment pass.
2. We expect you to be human. We expect you to eat when you are hungry (and eat than the kids more because you are bigger), have bad days when you just want to surf your phone and serve the easiest food.

Please don't lie to your MB, even about the smallest things. Please don't put on an act when MB is around. It's ok to be human, to have good days and bad. As long as you are honest and treat the kids as you want your kids to be treated, you don't have to be perfect 100% of the time.

Maybe we expect you to be a little bit better (such as no TV with you) than us since you get to go home at 6pm and have "my time.." but not much better. We are parents and we know what it is like to look after them first hand.

You can't give the nanny at least a half hour break a day and let the kids watch one cartoon? We spend more time during the week with your kids than you do and need a break too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, while trying to sound like a nice person, OP is a perfect example of someone who should not have chosen a nanny for childcare. She is clearly a very suspicious person and it is unlikely that that will change. Better for her to recognize this quality an choose daycare where everyone is watching everyone all the time so trust is not an issue

You try to pull wool over MB a lot don't you.

Um, no, I don't creep if that's what you mean. Totally off the subject, but I want to get my MIL a fabulous Talking Christmas Fruitcake-how much do you cost and where can I buy you? Ho, Ho, Ho!

I act the same whether or not the parents are home. I may behave better on trips we go on.

I tell my boss what I do. She notices new stuff and pays me back.

I made sure I discussed past history good and bad so it wouldn't repeat.

They know when I'm feeling annoyed or frustrated. They also are smart and don't leave crap around for me to read. I wouldn't anyhow unless it was something to do with me or my charges.

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, while trying to sound like a nice person, OP is a perfect example of someone who should not have chosen a nanny for childcare. She is clearly a very suspicious person and it is unlikely that that will change. Better for her to recognize this quality an choose daycare where everyone is watching everyone all the time so trust is not an issue

You try to pull wool over MB a lot don't you.

Unfortunately, while trying to sound like a nice person, OP is a perfect example of someone who should not have chosen a nanny for childcare. She is clearly a very suspicious person and it is unlikely that that will change. Better for her to recognize this quality and choose daycare where everyone is watching everyone all the time so trust is not an issue

I'm 16:05... Obviously I know that not you can't be TOO laid back. Some nannies will take advantage. I feel that the family I work for deserves the best, so I do everything I need to do without being told, as any good, professional nanny does.

Bet you don't know how often your husband stares at my rack.

I'm a nanny. I agree with you to a certain extent. I notice everything, and one day when I am an MB, I think I will be the same way. However, some working MBs do not notice things like craft supplies or aren't organized enough to keep track of those things. My MB is this way. Sometimes I buy the kids little things (ie playdough stuff from the target dollar section) and MB barely notices. Anyway, as far as nanny acting perfect when you're around goes, I think that has everything to do with comfort. Also, experience, amount of time working for a family, and amount of time MB is around with the nanny and children. It took me a lot of time around the parents to completely be myself. My MB is laid back and very realistic. She always makes me feel comfortable having an "off" day or whatever. I could see how working for a high strung MB would make me feel like I had to be perfect all the time. I have been with my family for 1.5 years and I am totally confident in the way I discipline and deal with my charges, whether MB is around or not. This shows.
As far as white lies go, that says a lot about the relationship between MB and nanny and what kind of person nanny is.
I totally understand where you are coming from. Spend time with your nannies, be interested in who they are (unless they are against this). And let them know that it's ok to be human! We appreciate it a lot! It will do wonders for your relationship.

nannydebsays wrote:Man, it must be exhausting to be omniscient...

+1 lol

Man, it must be exhausting to be omniscient...

which stickers get used in the sticker book? Depending on the age of the kids, it's probably because the nanny is letting the kids pick which stickers they want.

Nannies,

MBs may seem like we have too much on our plates and have no idea what is going on in our house sometimes but we know and notice a lot more than you think we do. Two messages I want to get out.

1. We know. I notice everything down to which stickers are gone in the sticker book, how much snacks go to you vs. kids, when you are being extra attentive because I'm around vs. how you are when I'm not around. I know when you make little white lies even though I let the moment pass.
2. We expect you to be human. We expect you to eat when you are hungry (and eat than the kids more because you are bigger), have bad days when you just want to surf your phone and serve the easiest food.

Please don't lie to your MB, even about the smallest things. Please don't put on an act when MB is around. It's ok to be human, to have good days and bad. As long as you are honest and treat the kids as you want your kids to be treated, you don't have to be perfect 100% of the time.

Maybe we expect you to be a little bit better (such as no TV with you) than us since you get to go home at 6pm and have "my time.." but not much better. We are parents and we know what it is like to look after them first hand.

Lying about small things and putting on an act when I'm around however will not make a good long term relationship. It will probably end up working against you. The trust will degrade and when kids are old enough, we'll want to switch to extended preschool or daycare.