I am just glad to see you are giving proper notice. My last nanny, who we had employed for approx 2 years and done right by, gave us TWO DAYS notice. I was traveling on business at the time. She told me by email. I was so furious. She was gone before I even could get back from the trip. My husband and I had done everything we could to take good care of her, and that was how it ended? Kudos to you for being such a gracious and concerned nanny.

do you want to start your new job sooner? or it doesn't start til jan?

I am an MB and I think you current family is acting inappropriately. I understand it is easier for them if you stay, but you have made a commitment to another family and it is in everyone's interst if you current family starts the transition process. I would stay firm.

Move forward with your notice and plans to begin the new job. You said yourself that your commute will be much better. That is something your current MB cannot compete with.

If your current MB has a history of guilting you into things is that really a relationship you want to continue? If the email you received from MB's cousin was snarky then she really wasn't being understanding. Someone who understands doesn't send a snarky email. Personally I wouldn't want to work for someone who sends me snarky emails before the job even begins. Imagine what would happen if you did something to irritate her during your employment with her.

If for some reason the work environment becomes hostile during your notice period then you finish out that week (if you can) and let them know you will not be returning the following week due to the hostile working environment. You are an at-will employee who can leave at any time.

When MB brings up you staying remain firm in your decision. "MB, I have really enjoyed working for your family over the past year. I understand you would like me to reconsider my decision, however I made the decision that is best for me. I would really like to finish out my notice with your family and end on a positive note. Please respect my decision. I am happy to have the new nanny you hire shadow me for a few days if that would make things easier for you in terms of training the new nanny."

Don't cave.

I gave my 2 months notice yesterday... We had agreed to 3 weeks but I've been with this family for over a year and thought I should give more notice... I have accepted another job about 2 mins from my home... It's full time and a little bit better pay.. And is far better than he half hour commute

My current position is 2-3 days a week and I was going to begin another on ( cousin of current MB) in mid January... I recieved a snarky email from MB's cousin... But she understood..... Mb sent
Me a huge email begging me to stay. Offering to pay gas and an increased wage...pretty much eliminating all my excuses.
She has a history of guilting me into things in the past. I LOVE the kids so much but I made this choice for a reason... She will rob ably guilt me into staying until the day I leave...
She pretty much didn't say anything about me quitting. Just that she looks forward to working things out so her job is the best choice for me.
I'm afraid the tables will flip and she will become very hostile

Her cousin is also telling me I am to recoinsider....

Any advice?