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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many, many APs have been abused for far too long.[/quote]

True. Our AP was abused by going on vacation in Europe, Asia, and the Caribbean. She was forced to drive her own dedicated car (a ford - slummy!). She was forced to spend all of her evenings and weekends shopping and hanging out with friends. She suffered through having her ADU cleaned by our housekeeper, hand-rolled pasta dinners, etc. We miserly paid for an unlimited call, text, and data plan and gym membership. We selfishly let her her siblings stay with us for two weeks. We rudely took her out for dinner, family excursions, and sundry. The horrible ogres that we are, we gave $1000 towards her education (even though we were required to pay only $500). She provided 45 hours of childcare, which she bargained for before we matched. Call CPS![/quote]

Right! Yeah, ours have been so abused by going on a cruise to the Bahamas, having their own suite which we could rent for $800/month, unlimited data phone plan, Christmas in manhattan, all meals out paid for which usually is weekly, a new car to drive, but sure, she has to drive kids around for 20 hours a week so definitely call the authorities. She could easily rematch and leave her 'abuse-ridden home' if she wanted to and be placed somewhere else to be abused within weeks with free airfare anywhere she wanted to go where she matched with a family. But, yeah, omg, call CPS. She's in real danger. [/quote]

Those posts are funny, doesn’t it dawn on people that while you may not be abusing your APs many may well be.  Plenty of host moms here come for advice, explain their OP situation and as soon as they are told what they do isn’t in line with the program they either say it doesn’t matter because their AP is okay with it (even though AP don’t really have the freedom to say no) or get all arsy saying obviously everyone here is a nanny troll.

While you may be a good family, plenty are not. While you may go above and beyond for your AP, plenty do not, while you may respect the contract to a T plenty do not. It’s not hard to imagine that your AP’s experience isn’t the experience of every AP and that plenty of AP are taken advantage of, even if that’s not the case of your APs.

If no APs in the history of APs had ever been abused girls like Sophie Lionnet would still be alive and not dead, she was an extreme case but when such cases exists (and this one is VERY recent) pretending like abuse doesn’t exist because you don’t abuse your APs is of very bad taste. Kuddos to you for not abusing your APs, wouldn’t it be great if everyone had the same attitude to the program (and maybe then this lawsuit wouldn’t even be a thing) but it’s obviously not the case so I can’t see how acknowledging that some APs do get abuse and need more protection/stricter laws while also acknowledging that not all APs get abused is so hard to some. [/quote]
Well said.[/quote]

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