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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.[/quote]
How do you perform your parenting tasks if you're (supposed to) doing office work 40-50+ hours a week?

Oh, I know! You're shopping Hanna's online, at the office.
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Smart parents understand that a 
long-term devoted nanny is a parenting partner.[/quote]

Smart parents know how they want to parent and they hire a nanny who will support the parent's approach, philosophy, guidelines, etc...

Smart parents are confident in their own parenting and status as parents and don't at all see the nanny as a parent.  The nanny is a critical partner, absolutely.  But the nanny is an employee whose job it is to care for the kid(s) as the parents see fit.[/quote]
They know what they know, based on what? Girlfriend tales of woe at the office? Any actual experience? Because that's what really matters if you want to do something to the best of your ability.

After all, those who are most successful in your profession, weren't born knowing everything they know. They gradually gained their confidence with experience and knowledgeable guidance. I know parents who prefer to do the same.[/quote]

Well, let's see.  I spent years babysitting, decades being an aunt and godmother, years getting to know my husband and deciding to have children with him, ages getting to know myself and how I prefer to live my life, build my family, etc..., years watching friends build families and parent, and then months parenting my own kids before hiring a nanny.  I've also spent a career learning how to hire and manage employees.

So I hired a nanny who would take care of my kids the way I wanted. I hired someone with whom I could build a relationship.  I hired to my weaknesses, and to my preferences and management style.  I hired for the loving, caring atmosphere I wanted maintained for my kids.  I hired someone who would keep my babies on the sleeping and feeding schedule I established, who would cook food for them as I directed, etc..

I was hardly starting from zero knowledge when hiring a nanny.   The nanny we hired stayed with us for years.  I've just hired our second nanny and my level of knowledge with this hire was vast, and well informed by the first relationship, so there is certainly a learning curve.  But there wasn't a person on the planet who could come into the job knowing anything about me, my husband, or our kids so there is a learning curve on that side also.  [/quote]
Kudos to you. Maybe you could help train the others. But you must realize, lots of parents don't care to make your investment. They hire a professional nanny and expect her to know how to do her job. And she's the most expensive kind of caregiver that few parents can afford.[/quote]

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