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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I note there has been no response to a PP's good question of how it is meaningfully different for a child to watch the nanny do kids laundry versus adults. That's a bit telling.[/quote]

+1. [/quote]

Right. Just like there were no meaningful responses to a few nanny responses in which we illustrated specific ways we spend our time, and how incredibly entitled and unreasonable it is to hold against a childcare provider the fact that she only wants to engage in child care. How dare she not want to make your bed or do your laundry! Perhaps you should demand it of your plumber or your contractor. [/quote]

Well but that wasn't the question.  You said that asking a nanny to do adult laundry "shortchanges" the child.  In a subsequent post you said you correctly pointed out that no nanny on this thread including yourself objected to doing children's laundry.  In your expert opinion, how are they different?  How does one shortchange the child but not the other?  Please enlighten us![/quote]

I'm not the PP you are responding to, but I am not the PP who said those things. However, to answer your question, one is an appropriate aspect of caring for a child, and one is an inappropriate crossing of boundaries. Adults do their own laundry and maybe their spouses. Also adult laundry tends to be more complicated to wash and fold than a child's, so it takes longer, and my guess is that you'd make this request in addition to child laundry not in lieu of, so you are in fact taking time and attention away from your child. A kid takes a 2 hour nap, nanny gets an hour for lunch, she spends 30 minutes cleaning from lunch, straightening the play area, and getting ready for any afternoon activities. That leaves maybe 30 minutes, and that isn't difficult to fill doing CHILD related tasks (kid laundry, meal prep, vacuuming the play area, mopping/sweeping the kitchen, and planning activities). I use nap time for all of these things because the alternative is planning activities during my off hours. As an employee who gets paid for my time, I think it a reasonable expectation that I shouldn't have to do that during hours for which I am not paid.

So again, where are the hours of down time you believe nannies get? Why is it that a nanny who wants to do childcare is unreasonable? Why is not unreasonable to expect a nanny to do your laundry and clean your house? I understand crafting a job and hiring someone for that job, but you all have attacked and berated the nannies who don't do those extras as though it is they who are somehow lacking. Household duties are extras to be negotiated at hiring, as they are EXTRAS and are not a given. Choosing, as a nanny, that you are only interested in childcare tasks doesn't make you a bad nanny, it makes you a nanny. Being willing to do more makes you a nanny/housekeeper. You keep saying you wouldn't hire me as a nanny. But the things is, I'd never even apply. I'm not a nanny housekeeper. In the same way a plumber is not an electrician. Some of them may do both, but electrical work doesn't just come with hiring a plumber. [/quote]

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