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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had an interview with a nanny who is  perfect on paper.  Lots of experience, great references, a degree in education etc.  We’re in the process of hiring her but wanted her to meet the kids.

We invited her to the house to meet the kids and to confirm a start date.  We have a no-shoes rule in our home.  I feel like most households have the same rule, especially with COVID.

She (politely, I’ll admit) refused to remove her shoes.  It felt strange to have a potential employee refuse to follow our house rules the first time she visited our home.  I was a bit shaken and I guess she could tell so she said she didn’t feel comfortable being barefoot (she was wearing flats without socks) but in the future she would wear socks.  Maybe she didn’t have a pedicure but we’re not the type to judge (I haven’t had a pedicure in years).  I just felt like it was a little disrespectful.  It told me her personal comfort was more important to her than our values & personal safe & health.

DH thinks I’m overthinking it but I’m a big believer in trusting my gut.  I’d never ever refuse a future employers request.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done something I don’t like when I first start a job.  It shows your flexible and value your coworkers and employers comfort not just your own.

I’m also pregnant so could all be hormones but I’m still so bothered and seriously considering continuing the search. [/quote]

I know this is an old post but relevant for any interview.
Please let people know if you are a no shoe household before coming so they can wear socks or brinbg indoor shoes with them.
I always remove my shoes whether asked or not, as this is what we do in our home BUT, I would never expect anyone to go barefoot and as much as the OP expects shoeless, I expect you to provide covers for my barefeet. 
I have seen the word control written here? Employers don't have a right to control anyone, they have a right to have rules that are clear and known, so there is an agreement to follow......or not.
More and more, I see nannies having to be subservient to be acceptable to employers. This will never work and is not the basis for a good long term relationship.
Nannies are people who are in your home that you didn't fall in love with, you don't live like that with your husband and he would not tolerate it (or wife) and nannies won't either.
Go barefoot in a home I don't know.....HELL NO!
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