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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I'm going to be perfectly honest with you, as an employer of a few different nannies over the last 7 years.

First, if your nanny eliminated diary after telling you numerous times, and you telling her not to eliminate it, she did this with your child's best interests at heart.  Isn't that the kind of nanny you want?

Second, you talk about "trust" like trust is about your nanny following your every command and never showing any sign of judgment on her own.  Like this is how trust is earned.  You are severely misguided on this.  Trust is earned by your nanny putting your child first and foremost.  I trust my nanny with my children not b/c she blindly follows my advice at all times, but b/c she has always shown herself to put my kids first.  Period.  That isn't to say she doesn't do what I ask, but quite frankly, I don't micromanage what she feeds them, etc.

If you want a happy nanny-employer relationship, which is crucial to your child's happiness and wellbeing, you need to let go and TRUST your nanny's judgment, not just that she follows your commands.

A nanny isn't a housekeeper - who you want to clean your house is a certain manner.  And if you treat her as such, and expect as such, you are shortchanging your child.[/quote]

This is obviously a nanny.

Here is what a real employers think. Giving nanny room to work is important for her job satisfaction but clear  communication trumps that. If your nanny willfully kept something from you, it is a big red flag.[/quote]

Wow your logic is so bad it hurts. She's the mother and if she wants her nanny to do something that pertains to HER child, the nanny should do it (for the most part.) Parents hire nannies to watch their children, feed their tummies, make sure they don't sneak out and roam the neighborhood. The fact that this nanny took away milk and didn't even fill the mom in (until after) is not good judgement. Yeah, the outcome was good but next time it might not be. Just because the nanny (who isn't a doctor, btw) believes her own assumptions are correct, doesn't mean she can go an put it into action.

That aside.. OP -- I do understand how you feel but I also think you feel like you might have failed your child because you weren't able to spot what was wrong with him. You thought it was teething and you were wrong. I also think that because your nanny is with your child alot of his waking hours, and she was right, that she somewhat 'beat you to the punch --[/quote]

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