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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Right, this is my concern. She even tried to find a loophole about the rule i had about letting her boyfriend sleep over. He was still in her room when she started work one day and I had to put my foot down and tell her he can be here when she's not working, but not when she's supposed to be taking care of the kids and I'm at work. I will honestly probably just give up on the program if things don't work out with her. [quote=Anonymous]You have to assume she US finding loopholes for other things rematch.[/quote][/quote]

If you made it clear no overnight guests, the rule applies.  You give her a warning and if it continues to happen, you rematch.  Stop being her friend or parent.  She's an adult.  [/quote] i permit overnight guests, i just don't want her boyfriend in my home while she's supposed to be working.[/quote]

And she pushed.  I would push back.  No more overnight guests the night before she works, and she needs to be home no later than 7 hours before her shift, so that she can sleep.[/quote]

Psycho advice. Call her mother? FFS. She's an ADULT WOMAN not your handmaiden.  :oops: [/quote]

The adult woman can then pay her own rent, food, utilities, internet.[/quote]

You need help. APs are not allowed to work outside their cultural exchange program. OP wants her to take public transportation or ubers. AP wants to buy a car and has the funds to buy a car and wants the car for personal use. OP is unwilling to provide a car for reasons unreasonable or unclear. OP could say no boyfriend in the house - and could have said that in the beginning. The fact that she didn't has nothing to do with the transportation issue. [/quote]

Then don't be an au pair.  Or ask to rematch (visa rules don't restrict APs from asking to rematch).  Tough world, get used to it. [/quote]

Ha! Not an au pair - just a HF that doesn’t try to treat an AP as an indentured servant (or worse). [/quote]

Au pairs don't have to become au pairs. OP is beyond generous. Au pair can rematch if she doesn't like it.  It's that simple[/quote]

Do you think you have the right to prevent an AP from spending money that she has earned and saved on shopping for clothes? travel? If not, what your ego thinks that you have the ability to stop her from obtaining a license, renting a car or, as here, owning a car? That's some serious lack of boundaries. You shouldn't have an AP at all. It's that simple. [/quote]

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