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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. 
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.  [/quote]

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.[/quote]

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP?  Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work![/quote]

I recognize your posts!! You spent the whole time telling HMs they can’t afford childcare when they ask a simple question. Maybe you should checkout your privilege and yourself in the mirror? Btw the “guest room” I am talking about is available because I will move my youngest to a PnP in our room! I guess that means I still can’t afford childcare because I don’t have a real guest room on top of the huge basement apartment  :roll:

Anyway, I always read that we should treat au pairs like our niece, I guess it only works one way? Will a niece have a problem temporary moving to a smaller room to accommodate other family members?  I am sure my au pair will have no problem with this because she actually part of our family![/quote]

Lol.  No, that's not me.

If you are already so sure that you are "treating your AP" so well, why are you bothering to ask here?

What you are planning to do is WRONG.   Go ahead and do it if you think it works best for YOU.  But it is WRONG.  If your AP has the opportunity to transfer to another family, she will take it.  [/quote]

Yeah right it is not you! That was a leap from my question to the conclusion that I can’t afford childcare!
I didn’t expect everyone to agree with me, which why I posted here but I didn’t expect the first response to be from a crazy, angry person either.[/quote]

Lol...

If I was angry about anything, it was because I was watching my college basketball team lose. :(
I am not an AP host, and I have never been an AP.  I have no skin in the AP game.

I am a normal person who just calls it like it is--you are a terrible person for even considering this.  [/quote]

If you've never been an AP and don't host one then [b]this is not the forum for you. [/b] You have NO idea what it's like to be a HP -- it's so easy to be judgmental when you haven't done it yourself.  Don't be defensive about that -- it's just not fair to be holier than thou when you've never given AP everything and had them ask for me.

BUT...in this case I think OP is wrong.  APs have their living space and shouldn't have to lose it for guests.  Yes we treat them life family members and yes I'd move my DD out of her room for guests but it feels wrong to make a grown woman leave her space for two weeks.  And I've been in similar situations and my brother's families shares the home office because it's that or uproot AP, which we're not going to do.[/quote]

Unless Jeff says otherwise, I can read and post wherever I want.  Who do you think you are?[/quote]

You're right.  It's a free country.   But who do I think I am?   I'm an experienced HM with a lot more advice on the topic than someone who has literally no experience in the matter. [/quote]

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