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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I believe the saying goes 'Not all men. Yes all women'.

I've had plenty of wonderful male bosses who I hugged on occasion. I've also had male bosses who gave me the creeps and who I wouldn't have liked to be in the lift with on my own. The difference is that we as women have to be able to voice our displeasure when people, most exclusively men, treat our bodies as their personal playground. We're taught to believe that it is rude to say no and that an advance is a compliment and it is all harmless fun. It is not true. My body, my rules. You don't have to scream rape if you don't like the way a DB puts his hand around you, but you are completely in your right to state calmly that you don't like the way your boss is touching you and ask him to stop, thank you very much. It does not mean you hate all men. It means this particular man is not behaving the way he should.

We have to assert ourselves, and though we've been brainwashed into thinking we shouldn't because it makes us ungrateful rude shrews who can't take a compliment, it is in our hands to teach men that we are own people and deserve the same bodily autonomy and respect that their male friends, coworkers and employees get. /soapbox[/quote]

Hate to tell you though, just because you feel uncomfortable does not mean that someone else is doing anything wrong. If socially acceptable things make you uncomfortable you should see a psychologist. [/quote]

If you read OP's post you will see that what her DB was doing was definitely crossing the line and that is what was making her uncomfortable. But society taught her that she should suffer instead of potentially hurt this man's feelings, which is utter bs. Social norms are changing all the time. It would be nice if we could move from 'anyone has access to my body because I'm a woman' to 'no one has access to my body unless they have my permission' which is, oh wait, the way men are treated right now.

A good litmus test is asking yourself if something would be a thing that happens to men. I currently can't think of examples in Western culture where it is appropriate for one man to lead another man to the door with his hand on the small of the other one's back. Why should it be okay for a man to do to a woman then?[/quote]

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