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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All is good, especially when your judgement has some basis, beyond "I said so". That posture may be fine for your child, but not for your parenting partner who often is the primary caregiver. You must actually know a child before you automatically know what's best.[/quote]
No matter how little you think the working mother knows her child, you, the nanny, know him or her even less - when you look at the totality of his or her life.  That child is a stranger to you when you enter his or her life; he isn't, to his mother. You weren't there when he or she was born, and you won't be there when he or she dies.  You certainly don't bear the same responsibility as the parents for the way this child will turn out.  You are there to support and back the family, not to steer it.

So I don't feel that the parents should have to justify their views to the nanny. Saying "I said so" sounds a bit churlish but "that's the decision we made and we are comfortable with it" sounds perfectly fine. If you don't respect your employer's opinions in parenting, perhaps you're not meant for each other.
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Perhaps you and I simply live in two different worlds. That little bundle that you gave birth to, is a very different person six months down the road. When exactly are you keeping up with him/her? At night? Sat and Sun while you're madly dashing about with a million errands? Maybe you're busy at the office only PT, so there's some time and energy leftover for some parenting. Let's hope so, or is "balance" your big myth?[/quote]
You don't know anything about my Saturdays or Sundays so don't make things up because it suits your story better. A working parent is a parent all the same, the most important person in a child's life. Yes, good nannies are cherished, and if you're ever rewarded for your contribution to the child's life it will be as Best Supporting Actress, not Best Leading Actress.  Good nannies value and appreciate their role as a vital element of the family's support system, not a pit of barely masked contempt for the person who signs their paychecks, or weird competitiveness about primacy of caregiving. [/quote]

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