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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - any interest in salvadging it?  You could apologize specifically for the things that were your fault, ask her to clarify your contract and expectations and give it another couple weeks?[/quote]

No. I plan on apologizing again for asking to leave early and having my phone on during work hours, but other than that, I don't feel too much like I did anything else wrong. She was home everyday this week. [b]She knows I wasn't a sit on my butt nanny at all[/b], and honestly, with her being home, I tried very hard to be constantly engaged and 'on' since boss was right there. I think the pregnancy has stressed her and I really feel for her. I do wish them the very best and if I were in her situation, I would definitely seek someone who can do housekeeping and errands since it's dificult right now. For $20/hr, she will absolutely find an appropriate fit for household and child care needs.[/quote]

The kid had an hour-long class and you wanted to sit on your ass in your car to play on your phone. How exactly does that demonstrate that you're not a "sit on my butt nanny at all"?  That is EXACTLY what you are. [/quote]

Pray tell, what WAS OP supposed to do if not sit and wait? Apparently you have never taken kids to activities cause ths is EXACTLY what I'm always asked to do. [/quote]

I sit and wait at each activity.  I do not leave the facility.  The kids are ultimately your responsibility not the facility and that is what she is getting paid for.  [/quote]

Lol, then why did the mom get mad at OP for not asking to run errands? [/quote]

Mom is not feeling well.  OP could have stepped up and offered to help more until mom is feeling better.  OP wants to leave the facility and do her own thing while getting paid for an hour.[/quote]

Uh no. Mom could have asked. OP was supposed to use her own funds? No.[/quote]

Exactly. Like has been said before, everyone tends to be on their best behavior in the first few weeks of a position. This MB has already shown herself to expect her employee to be a mind reader, as well as to volunteer to do a task for which they never negotiated. She's asking for extras less than a week into the job! For an MB that I loved and had know for some time, you bet I'd bend over backwards to make her comfortable and at ease. OP has known this woman for a week. She did nothing wrong by not volunteering to do more than she agreed to do. Also MB is pregnant, not "not feeling well". How is it going to look if OP starts her job by doing a ton of extras, then once MB  is back in her feet (with a newborn?) she scales back the extras? No. The first few weeks definitely set the tone for the job. You do your job excellently, but you don't do more than you are paid to do. If the family is appreciative, has normal expectations, etc. THEN you do what you can outside of your job to add value. OP should have just stayed in the lobby like she was supposed to without asking to do otherwise. And sure offering to do errands would be nice, but bitching because an employee has done precisely what you hired her to do is beyond reason. [/quote]

Absolutely. I'm failing to understand how some of the posters don't see that while OP did some wrong things, the mb did as well. [/quote]

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