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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't demand to meet the guys or even ask their names. You can offer to, for safety, but you can't demand it.

The sneaking out and bringing a man into the house in the middle of the night needs to be addressed. Personally I would rematch if she did it again.

No offense but you sound controlling. She's wrong, and sounds like she has poor judgment. But demanding to meet a guy, and thinking that you have the power to send her home (you don't) is over the top. Your relationship with your AP is probably going to suffer some kind of spectacular blow up unless you back off and unless she becomes much more discreet about her colorful sex life. [/quote]

+1.  Our AP met her boyfriend on a dating app.  She is an adult, and I don't feel it is our business to monitor her personal activities.  When I was in my early 20s, my parents (whom I admittedly did not live with) did not ask where I spent my Saturday night, and I certainly didn't tell them the name of every boy I went out with.  Your involvement in her dating seems very intrusive.

I guess my view would change if your AP were 18 or 19.  At that age, she seems more like a kid.  Our AP is 23.

Bringing home the guy in the middle of the night without asking you would make me really angry too.  I think that's a big deal, but you maybe need to separate the stuff about her keeping her dating activities secret and her bringing a stranger to your house.  These offenses are not all the same.[/quote]

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