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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Absolutely no issues matching with our preferred Northern Europeans. I actually feel like we are in the drivers seat. We have APs chasing us around after interviews. Here is our profile:

2 school aged kids
Treat stipend as a minimum and pay fed minimum wage if over 27.5hrs
Dedicated car
Live in Ashburn 
Fed holidays off
3 weeks in summer off
1 week Christmas off
Spring break off
Basement suite
Smartphone
Membership at lifetime fitness.

I realize our package is desirable and outside the norm. However, I want a great AP who values her job and wants to keep it. I want my pick of AuPairs and dont want to settle. I don't want drama. I want a very solid driver. We so far have had great luck and have truly had girls who value their jobs. They all know exactly how other APs are treated to the bare minimum and know via social media that our gig is a good one.[/quote]

Curious how much you end up paying weekly?[/quote]

Most weeks $200, as we usually only use 25hrs.  At the very highest 40hrs @ $290 in the summer when we do not have a camp scheduled. It is not exactly a hardship, but goes a far way in goodwill and I also would not feel OK paying someone under minimum wage in ANY situation. Even with our benefits package, this is still very cheap childcare for in home care. I can't even find a sitter for under $20/hr when we are between AuPairs.[/quote]

What is your point in making this post (especially the last part)?  Are you trying to shame other host parents who follow the rules but don't offer extra?  Do you want praise? SMH.[/quote]

If you feel ashamed that is a personal problem. I'm just answering the question and yes, I absolutely feel any worker in Thr United States should make minimum wage at the least. I actually practice what I preach and live my liberal ideals.

You are well within your rights to follow the minimum standard. Most people do. Dont get so worked up over how I conduct my personal affairs.[/quote]

Yeah well I offer everything you do and more and still struggled like hell to match with Northern Europeans. The only thing I can think of is our race. Guess you’re lucky to be white. [/quote]

Its not personal but not all countries are diverse so people aren't familiar with what kind of home they are going into.  Would you feel ok being in a home with the exact opposite culture and not sure if the family will respect your culture, food (we've seen posts on how au pair has to eat the family dinner cooked), etc.  We have family in another country who came here the first time and they were scared by the diversity - it was just the unknown.

You do not know the race of other posters.  Maybe it is your home, family set up, number of kids, car, a random comment in your profile, your personality, etc. (not saying any are wrong just not their comfort)[/quote]

This is a bizarrely racist post. You seem to be justifying or rationalizing au pairs’ decisions to exclude non white families from consideration based on a strange and unfounded belief that they would click more with white families because non white families are somehow more foreign when we are talking about all families living in the US. You should do some serious introspection about your beliefs. It’s also extremely naive to think that race and religion on their face (we are talking about being rejected before even speaking to the AP) aren’t factoring in to many especially Northern Europeans’ au pairs’ decisions to reject families outright. We observe a minority religion, and we do not  impose our religion on anyone - it simply doesn’t affect their life in any way- and I am certain we offer an easier schedule and better perks than most families and yet for example no German au pair has ever even agreed to speak with us, let alone match. [/quote]

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