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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NO, 3 or 4 kids is a LOT of kids.  Just look at the moms who don't want to take care of their own kids!    Who wants to be stuck with that all day long? Not the parents! [/quote]

Its very hard to take care of 3-4 kids of different ages and interests.  Either kids don't get activities or attention or are dragged around sitting on a tablet waiting for the other kids to be done and usually the youngest don't get activities in less its the same as the older ones.  [/quote]

Mom of 4 here. That’s not the case in our family! The older two are 7th and 5th grade. They just need rides to places when they’re not carpooling. They do their own laundry and generally take care of themselves. They do need to be fed, but if you’re already making a meal it’s not much extra effort. Both of them are gone most of the day and evening due to school and activities.

Younger two have never had a tablet sitting in front of them at someone else’s activities. They have their own things to do and are in activities different from their siblings. We make it work because we have two parents involved and engaged, a great network of friends we carpool with (trade off - everyone takes turns), and an au pair thrown in as well.

I would MUCH prefer a job with four school aged kids than with two toddlers![/quote]

4 kids is still a lot and a 5th grader still needs support.  If you have an au pair and do things like carpool (i.e. dump your kids off on someone else), you aren't that active as parents as you think.  I get so tired of parents of multiple kids dumping theirs on me for "carpools" when its really me driving most of the time and them doing every so often.[/quote]

Carpooling mom of four here. There is no “dumping off” of our kids. There is trading off on driving, though! For example: three of us have boys in the exact same two activities on Tuesdays. We all live near one another. Rather than three parents driving three separate cars to pick up three separate kids, we TAKE TURNS so it’s just one parent driving all three kids. We do this with families that have anywhere from 1-3 kids. Yes, we even drive the “only child” as part of our carpool! If anything, we tend to do more of the driving because frankly we’ve gotten really good at figuring out how to manage complex schedules. [/quote]

If you have two kids going, and one family has one, you should be driving more.  But, I refuse to carpool because everyone's driving standards are different, car seat use and I want the flexibility to do stuff before and after without having to pay for your kid all the time.[/quote]

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