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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was it communicated from the beginning that the toiletry in the gift basket was a welcome one-time thing and she is responsible for the rest of the year? Was it a miscommunication?

How much did you give the AP in total for the diapers and baby food that there would be $30 extra of which she bought $20 of toiletry and $10 left in change?  Was this a petty cash that she had access to or you gave her money specifically for a one-time trip to the store for diapers and baby food?

Next time, hand over money but just enough to buy the diapers and baby food.  Calculate how many diapers and baby food and tell her exactly that shopping list and no more or less. Have her bring back receipt and change.

I would go through the bags of diapers and baby food. Ask her "Is this all of it?" and "I can please have the receipt and change?"  Just say it in a matter-of-fact tone.  When she hands over the receipt, you comment that the money was for diapers and baby food only and not for anything else. Then clarify about personal toiletry on the receipt as on her own. Since she already bought it, you'll let it go this time. However, in the future, please only use the money to buy the things I ask for and always give me the receipt and change when you get back.[/quote]

Ummm, I've given every single AP a huge gift basket that includes all imaginable toiletries,  candle, mug, sunblock, GC to the movies pedicure, and Starbucks, nice tea, OTC medicines, people magazine, monogrammed bathrobe and I have never ONCE had to "communicate " that the gift basket was a one time thing. This is not the fault of the OP. This is a shady untrustworthy AP.[/quote]

We also do a gift basket of toiletries, but I explicitly say in the handbook that AP is responsible for their own (buying what they prefer) the rest of the year. If they ask, could you please pick up some shampoo before I go grocery shopping, sure, I'll pick up something random. But most 20 somethings want something fancy or that smells good, not the random stuff HM is going to grab from a grocery store![/quote]

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