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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it's 3 weeks until orientation, and then 2 weeks of orientation, you have five weeks to prepare -- that really is a lot of notice and a fairly slow transition.

I think you should do the orientation since that will be the lesser amount of change, or alternate days with one parent so he gets used to life after you.

If the job didn't pay that well and you needed a second job to make it work, then it really shouldn't be such a surprise that they decided on daycare. They couldn't afford the nanny they have.

This breakup will be awful, but you are going to be much happier in the long run with a family that isn't pinching pennies to afford you, and with a job that pays well enough to give you some of your own life and time back.

-- MB here
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Another MB here agreeing.  This is thoughtful, and generous advice.

I also think though, OP, that you behaved quite unprofessionally when they told you.  Your employers said you had done a terrific job, thanked you for all you have done for their child, and gave you several weeks notice.  You responded incredibly poorly.

It is not your place to judge the decisions parents make for their child.  It just isn't.  It's wonderful that you are so loving towards your charge, but you are a professional who was hired to do a job.  It sounds like you very seriously lost sight of that.

I also agree with another poster that you may have significantly damaged the reference these parents will give for you, and I wonder if they made this decision in part because you were too attached/critical/judgmental in your work.  I don't think age 2 is optimal for starting daycare, but I do think that changing to daycare is an easier solution for some than simply firing and rehiring a nanny.  I think it's quite possible they thought that was the kindest way to end a relationship they no longer felt was working well.

So if you anticipate a career as a nanny I think you need to look very carefully at how you behaved in terms of being an employee, not just a loving caregiver, during your tenure with this family and see what you can learn from that.  Before you leave, if you can manage it, you might even ask your current employers to give you some constructive feedback for your next positions.  If they're willing to do that, and if you're willing to listen, it might be hugely helpful.  It really doesn't sound to me like they were trying to be mean in any way.  [/quote]

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