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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, the crazy side debate about primary caregivers aside, OP, this is a pretty normal developmental phase for kids, but there are right and wrong ways to deal with with.  When I was home with my older DC, he had a total mommy phase where he wouldn't go to DH at all and cried when DH did anything with him, and then maybe two weeks later decided Daddy was the center of the universe and was fine with me all day until DH was home from work and then it was like I didn't exist.  It doesn't ever feel great as a parent but it's very normal and it's very much just a phase - kids always know who their parents are.  However, I can see an MB being annoyed if she perceived you were encouraging that sort of hurtful behavior.  DH and I (and our nanny when I finally went back to work), would always handle situations where DC was demanding one person and rejecting another by saying "of course!  I want to give you a kiss too.  But mommy is leaving for work now so let's go say goodbye to her together and give her a special kiss to help her get through the day missing you, and then I'll give you a special kiss too before we head to the park."  Or whatever.  Our nanny also always made a point of having DC FaceTime us at work or just calling us so we could "talk" to DC (before he was talking) whenever he missed us during the day to remind him that we were also thinking about him.  This doesn't have to be about MB jealousy or what makes someone a primary caregiver or the stability of kids whose parents WOH - it's about how the adults in a child's life should be working together to reassure the child that he or she is surrounded by a circle of loving caregivers.[/quote]
I like your support of parents and nannies functioning as partners on some level.[/quote]

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