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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are relocating from overseas and are so lucky that we will be able to bring a nanny with us. Our current nanny is wonderful. Really, really exceptional in her work and our daughter adores her and so do I.  She has been with us since my daughter was 3 months old - she is now 2.5. We've also had a little baby since then that she has helped take care of. She has asked us repeatedly if she can please come with us and I wouldn't hesitate for a second if it wasn;t for the fact that she has her own two children.. I have asked her how she would feel being so far away from them etc and while she know it will be difficult, she is also very confident that the kids will be taken well care of by her extended family ("they have many mothers", i.e. it is a different culture where siblings, cousins etc all live in a big compound and take care of each others' kids). There is no father in the picture.

The other option we have is to bring a temporary nanny we have used when our regular nanny has been on leave. She is also very nice, but cannot compare with our regular nanny. No kids though.

So, what to do? I partly feel that if I tell her you can't come because you have kids I am discriminating against her (I would certainly feel that if someone told me I didn't get a job because I have kids!); at the same time I would feel guilty if she moved away from her own kids to take care of mine. For her the reason to go is obvious - she would make so much more money here than she could ever do back home and can therefore help her kids get a good life.

What would you do?[/quote]

Let your nanny make the decision.  This is her family, her life and her choice.  Do not patronize her by taking on ANY guilt for her choices - she is your kid's nanny and you are not her mother.

But be willing to let her quit gracefully and go home if she is too homesick.  [/quote]

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