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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It makes me sad to read threads like this, especially when it's obvious that the nanny who thinks nannies are "substitute mothers" is really only trying to hurt MBs and make them feel guilty for no other reason than to make herself feel more important. It's like pouring fuel on an unnecessary fire and making the nanny/MB dynamic even more contentious than it already is.

I'm a single mom with the DD who has had the same nanny, her only nanny, for the whole 5 years of her life. I've posted about her before. She is amazing. Her nanny is not her mother, but she is a valuable partner in the raising of my DD. She knows things about my child that I don't because she spends different hours with her and sees her in different settings and circumstances than I do. As a result, her input and insight is invaluable to me as I try to make the best parenting decisions I can make as her mother. I consider myself and DD incredibly lucky to have her as an important part of our team. She doesn't run the show, and I don't run the show. We are a kind of partnership, supported by teachers, friends, and other important people in DD's life, in bringing up the best kid possible.

Before anyone worries, I don't over rely on our nanny or blur the professional lines just because I'm a single mom. We have healthy boundaries and mutual respect. When the day comes that our nanny feels ready to move on, we will miss her terribly but support her, because that is what you do when you respect people.

Yes, I am actively engaged in the art of mothering and part of that engagement is to enlist and appreciate the talents and wisdom of our nanny.[/quote]

Thank you for your post in response to mine. You are in the minority of MBs on this forum, in that you credit the nanny as a partner, of sorts. A good long-term nanny should have that distinction. Your child is truly blessed to have you both. Stability is so crucial during those first years of life, as you already know. Your child has already received what most others will never have. Your commitment is a real testament to your caring for your child. [/quote]

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