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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My heart goes out to so many, many children who feel abandoned this way. Hugs to OP. At least she's sensitive to the reality of having revolving door nannies.

Most parents and nannies refuse to even consider the long-range repercussions of these early childhood experiences, just when the establishment of bonds with primary caregivers is so critical to healthy development.

And we wonder why our kids are having so many problems down the road. Strong foundations make a difference. Denial does nothing to change the sad truth.

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A part-time nanny is NOT a primary caregiver.  That's not to say OPs children won't miss the nanny but if they have good loving parents they most certainly will not feel abandoned.  My children like their part-time nanny and are very happy with her but when she isn't around (like for vacation) they don't ever mention her.  They'd much rather be with me because despite their "bond" with the nanny they are with me much more than with her.  It's not denial, it's the truth.  
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Where did OP say the nanny was only PT?[/quote]

We had one nanny share before second baby was born ( that nanny didnt want to add an infant to the mix for the last five months of the share, then transition to being our fulltime nanny) and then recently our nanny of 2 yrs left. She was bored and thought she could get 60+k rather than the 39k we were paying her. That is not the most competitive salary overall but we did give a lot of perks and she was only 22, so I thought that was a fair salary given her financial situation ( she is supported by well-off husband). I thought I was a good Mb, and she never mentioned any dissatisfaction. But the fact she left speaks for itself.

Maybe it is just too traumatic for me. I am going to stop working. I hate my job anyway, but felt like I needed to contribute to our household. I would much rather be with my kids.

[b]Oh and I should also mention it was a part time position, 30 hrs.[/b]

I feel that two nannies for my eldest child is where I have to draw the line. My youngest has known only our second nanny and is/was deeply attached to her. I feel quite betrayed by the fact she didn't tell us she was unhappy, but at the same time, the fact that she didn't say anything suggests we could not have offered her anything to improve her satisfaction. So be it.
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