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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As long as we're at it, what kind of father wouldn't want to be there to care for his sick child?  Oh wait...dads get a pass. Only moms are supposed to feel guilty.

Kids are all different. All four of mine have different levels of neediness. But we've had really great nannies and the kids have bonded really well with our nannies, so they're perfectly comfortable with the nanny as well as with me.

For you nannies who are declaring that sick kids always want their mothers - maybe it's not the kid, it's you - not much of a bond there and the kid wants someone who really cares about him/her. [/quote]

Why are you being defensive? There was one poster who said kids want their moms. That post could easily have said "dad" so chill out. And my charges adore me. That doesn't mean they aren't more happy at the end of the day to see their parents. It doesn't mean that they don't jump out of my arms and reach for mom when they're upset. This is normal, and has nothing to do with our bond. I have the bond with them that a nanny should, while their mother/father have a different and stronger bond. The more of that parental role, bonding type duties that you hire out, the more likely your kid will have as strong if not a stronger bond to that caregiver than to you. If I'm the one who's there in the morning, tucking in at night, feeding them all their meals, kissing the boo boos, and celebrating their acheivements, while you worship the almighty dollar from your cubicle, damn right they'll have no particular preference for you. [/quote]

I totally agree w/ the mother of 4 above.  Every word.

Why would someone feel defensive in response to posts like yours?  Seriously?  Because they are offensive, presumptive, ill-informed, and driven by a bias and anger that has nothing to do with any specific knowledge of anyone's circumstance.  You're not tucking my kids in at night, I don't worship the almighty dollar from a cubicle, I haven't "hired out bonding duties" (which is a completely nonsensical thing BTW), and my children are perfectly capable of loving their nanny, their grandparents, their extended family, and me.  And I trump all (except occasionally Daddy), but every single one of those people is perfectly capable of caring for my kids if/when they have a cold, need some snuggles, etc...  More love and attentive care in a child's world does not equate to absentee or neglectful parenting.

Show me a nanny who posts your kind of rants and I know it's someone who has never had children of their own.[/quote]

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