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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does the care per child get reduced? Does she change diapers half as often? Feed them half as many meals? put them down for half as many naps? listen to their needs half the time? She still has to care for both kids 100%, you can't really quantify the decrease in attention. Ideally all their needs will continue to get met, its just a matter of whether the nanny can essentially meet double the needs, and handle doubling her workload. [/quote]
The workload doesn't double because there is no space for it to double, unless you agree that prior to introducing the second child the nanny was doing nothing half the time. The amount of care per child does get reduced.  She now has to balance the needs of both children during the same amount of time. She may not talk/sing/read/entertain/play as much with each child because she has to fit them both in. She may have to balance the outings with the needs of both children in mind, and that means that sometimes each child won't get to do what they want.  Their needs are still met, but they will be met with a more "bare-bones" approach rather than deluxe version.  Ask any mother of two whether the amount of attention she was able to pay to #1 went down when #2 entered the picture.[/quote]

I'm not saying that the older child won't feel a change in amount of attention showed, simply that you can't quantify what exactly that change is, and I don't think 50% is accurate. Everyone's physical needs are still met, laundry, meals, and clean up should still happen. A good nanny can easily feed an infant a bottle and carry on a conversation/read a book/instruct an older child. The reason costs in a share are split is because the two families share the cost of the care. I don't think anyone would go the share or daycare route if they truly believed their kid was getting half/one third of a nanny. All of your child's needs should be met in whatever care setup you choose, and having another child in the mix doesn't change things that drastically. $1 or $2/hour increase for a new baby is fine with me, and I would drop my rate to bring my infant along but definitely not in half. More like $2-$3. [/quote]

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