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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, to clear things up - this is what I originally stated: "I asked her how the day went as I was walking her to the door, and she replied along the lines of "Fine. So, are you going to send a check each time or...?"

...The walk from my office to the front door was taking minute or two as she was gathering her things, so more than a one-word response would have very easily been possible. Even 5 words. "Fine" is not a satisfactory. response. She wanted to stay to talk about money, which had already established. No one was asked to work overtime. I am not abusive. [b]And, we'd already agreed that if I am late for some reason, she'd be paid in 15-minute increments to compensate -- so, if even if I am 5 minutes late, she will be paid for .[/b]

She is not "poor". She is partially supported by her parents while she establishes herself. I am paying her $2 more an hour than my friend had been, because I felt she was underpaid for the work required.

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Right. But did you ask her ahead of time? She might have had plans immediately after work that day. [/quote]

I have been a nanny 15+ years.  Some MBs make this mistake (not all).  They think if they are paying nanny, nanny can stay late anytime.  They forget to think about whether she can stay on short notice or no notice.  Maybe she has a class, another job, dinner plans, etc.  I tried and tried to get through to one MB - telling her straight out that she couldn't have me stay late just anytime (and I mean like 30-45 min. late twice/week) - and that I had other plans.  She wouldn't get it.  I finally had to have a regularly scheduled thing three days/wk so she would stop.  I told her what it was and when it started.  I didn't really have that, but it was the only way to get her to stop.  She still came home right when I should be leaving, and proceeded to keep talking to me about various things, making me 5-15 min. late anyway.  It is like she just couldn't let me go (some weird compulsion?).  I would be getting my purse, etc., walking towards the door, opening the door, standing at the open door, taking a couple steps away from the door, saying things like I was leaving, and she just kept talking.  If she wanted to talk to me so bad, she was there for 30 minutes each morning with me, so there was plenty of time then.  Then she didn't say much.  It was like she couldn't stand me leaving in the evenings, or got off on making me late...I don't know.[/quote]

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