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I understand what you're trying to say, but you must see that it cannot possibly apply to all nanny-child duos.  For starters, your argument requires that a nanny's child is of an age when she/he can be a) reasoned with, and b) fairly independent.  Why? Well, say, your 6-year old charge has pool time, and your infant (or toddler, or 2-year old) doesn't.  What are you going to do with your infant/toddler child when you are in the pool with your 6-year old charge? You aren't going to leave your infant child strapped into a carseat in the corner of the pool (I assume), and you can't very well expect a toddler to sit still for an hour of swim practice.

Say your infant/toddler is due for a nap, but your older charge doesn't nap.  You can't very well tell an infant or a toddler on the verge of a meltdown to just buckle up and ride through it.  It's not like they can hold off napping just because you really, really want them to.  Kids have needs that aren't negotiable, and this doesn't change whether their parents are nannies or not. Do you see what I'm trying to say? In order not to compromise well-being of either child, certain conditions must be in place. It can't work for all nannies with all children.  I've outlined two scenarios where their needs might be in conflict and I'm sure there are others, and if you are as experienced as you say you are, I'm sure you can see them too.[/quote]

Absolutely it doesn't apply to everyone! Which is why hiring a nanny with her own child isn't going to work for everyone. :)

But for your specific points, we do have creative solutions, and I don't think they need to be old enough to reason with (lord knows that can be a long wait). In the case of needing to swim, both children would go in (nanny would pay for her child to use the pool at the same time) or the 6yo would be scheduled to have lessons with an instructor where the nanny would sit out of the water entertaining her child. (And it really is a terrible idea to set up a share or hire a NWOC if the kids are that far apart in ages!) Or if the way those swim classes are set up means the nanny must be in the water and her child cannot be, then it isn't a good fit and the family should hire someone without their own child. As far as napping, kids whose moms nanny are taught early to sleep on the move - in a carrier, in a stroller, even in a backpack.

But of course, we completely agree here - it isn't the right solution for everyone and there will always be more issues to iron out than with an independent nanny. But they aren't insurmountable in those situations where the NWOC is the best fit for the family and they want to make it work. What I was sharing were simply baseline expectations, without a doubt there will be specifics in every situation that will need to be addressed.[/quote]

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