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I wanted to comment on your question on why some families would not agree to nanny bringing her own child even for a pay decrease (but would consider a share).  Shares are different in that sense because the nanny is presumed to treat both kids on an equal footing.  In a share there is also no need to have a meeting of the mind on things like parenting philosophies, what is allowed, not allowed, schedules etc. - these negotiations take place between share partners and not employer/nanny.  The nanny just follows whatever the parents have agreed upon.  So it's easier with the share because the personal element is removed from this scenario; the relationship is purely employer/employee with no maternal feelings brought into it. [/quote]

Op here- I'm not sure if your a MB/nanny and how you interview. But I only take positions where my philosophies and approach to parenting is shared with the family. Since that is a big part of compatibility. That being said, there would not be an issue of philosophies not being mirrored in the care for each child. But for those who do not, is this not also the case in a share? Many nannies have to adapt to methods for one families child and another for the other family. (What they eat, how long they nap, what they wear, discipline methods etc). Any good nanny would be well versed in adaptability and adhering to what a parent wants for their child. At the same time, I can understand if some parents just simply want to tell the nanny what to do and never consult on anything. But that is a horrible approach to begin with. There has always been a meeting of the minds in every position I have had to discuss what is right for the child, and I find that such an approach is most successful for the child's relationship with nanny and parents and the employer/employee relationship as well.[/quote]

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