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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be like if you were a doctor and instead of having your kids treated at your practice or by a pediatrician you're friends with, you sent them to the emergency clinic around the block. Or a lawyer leaving their pot-possessing kid to navigate the legal system on their own. You use your skills to better the lives of your children, whenever and wherever you can. My skill is caring for children, why would I want someone else to care for mine?![/quote]

The answer to your much-punctuated question would generally be "so I can keep my children fed and clothed".  Never mind, you do what you like with your own children.  But your assumption that nannies who leave their own kids in someone else's care while they go to work are somehow short-changing their babies is both short-sighted and insulting to women who earn an honest and good living providing childcare.

Your doctor and lawyer comparisons make zero sense.  If a pediatrician treats no one else but their kids all day long, she won't have much of a practice soon.  If a lawyer does nothing all day but defends their own kids in court, well, that may be a better option than a public defender, but it's also unsustainable financially.

Again, your basic issue is that someone else's kids get something better than yours, and they happen to get it from you.  Tell me - do cooks at Le Bernardin get to feel resentful as they prepare these foie-gras-studded meals?  No cook can afford a steady diet of ingredients they get to play with at work, after all.[/quote]

The comparison I made was meant to illustrate that people use their skills to improve the lives of their children. If you are skilled in the medical field, it is a safe bet your kid will receive some high-quality healthcare. If you are skilled in the law, your teenagers are likely to benefit from that by increased understanding and (hopefully never needed) access to attorneys. If you are a skilled chef, your kids will grow up eating healthy and well-prepared meals and being comfortable with new foods.

Me? I am skilled in caring for kids. I am trained in their emotional, linguistic, and physical development. I am experienced in using positive discipline, in sleep training infants, and in potty training toddlers. How could I possibly feel good having someone else do all of those things with my children while I offer those SAME skills to someone else? Your kids will have the benefit of a good nanny (professional caregiver) and probably two professional parents who'll bring their own skills to their lives - doctoring, lawyering, politicking, whatever. Mine would have what, exactly?[/quote]

Why is it that you can't offer these same things to your child even though you are away from them for some daytime hours? Can you not do this on the weekends, in the evenings?

I also hate how everyone is assuming that other childcare is subpar as well! I know families that have had children thrive more in a daycare setting that had a great person come in and teach lessons to the kids each day, compared to a nanny that just took the kids to the park and to other activities like music class, reading at the library and a toddler gym. The daycare did all of these things with them as well, the children didn't suffer from being at the daycare. They learned social skills, played outside and indoors with different play structures and toys, had music time, reading, started learning education stuff every day. You put a kid from a daycare like this up against one that was raised with a nanny, and you cannot say that the one with the nanny did any better. If anything, I have seen kids with nannies learn to rely on the nanny much more and have a harder time getting used to not having an adult as a permanent play friend. They seem to always want an adult doing something with them compared to other kids that will seek out more independent play or want a CHILD to play with them.[/quote]

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