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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry that you lost your job, and that this old lady was such a busybody.

But as a parent, and nanny employer, let me just share some perspective on honesty.
 
We have three young children, one long term full time nanny, one long term part time (20+) hours a week, and a couple of weekend babysitters. 
We also have many friends who are gay, and [b]some who have gaybies[/b], these friends are often in our home, we are totally open minded.

In September we hired a new part time sitter to work 25 hours a week with us, it's a permanent position and we pay well. 
We hired a lady we liked a lot, the kids liked her, it seemed to be going well but then she flaked at the last minute a couple of times and that was a big challenge for us as two working parents, but the excuses she gave for being absent weren't ok with us.
She said she was helping different family members with random ailments, none of which we thought was a legitimate reason to miss work. 
The poor judgment gave me pause and I googled her name, I found that she had a pretty active FB profile and that she's actually married to a woman. 
As a couple they were having some issues and that's why she wasn't coming to work.

We ended up parting ways because she wasn't taking the job seriously, but also because she wasn't honest with us. 
We are a private family, she was also a private person, but it became clear to us was that she wasn't upfront it made us question her character. 
We lost our trust in her.

Try to shake this off, of course it's disappointing but all employers have influence over who they hire. Don't take it personally. [/quote]

None of this applies to the situation the OP is in, though. Your nanny outright lied to you about missing work and wasn't reliable. The OP has been doing an excellent job with zero complaints for 7 months. You fired your nanny because she was bad at her job. The OP was fired because she is gay. The only reason you bring this up is because both women are gay... which is problematic, because that somehow implies that each individual gay person is somehow a reflection of all other gay people? But just as you wouldn't judge all brunettes for the sins of that one brunette nanny, you shouldn't judge all gay nannies for that one gay nanny who was bad at her job.[/quote]

Cringe.  Don't use that term anymore. [/quote] this thread is 5 years old [/quote]

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