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[quote=Anonymous]Hmmm, my nanny voluntarily removed her shoes at the interview when she saw the stack next to the door (and our bare feet). We don't make anyone do so (and would expect repairmen, plumbers, etc. who need closed toed shoes for safety to keep them on) but most houseguests take them off without even being asked, and I would have never guessed there were people who would object so strenuously. But I totally get that when you are used to doing things one way all the time, it can be very weird and uncomfortable to be asked to do otherwise, and a house owner should try not to impose such a burden on the visitor.

For me, there is also the flip side though: our floors are cleaned professionally every 2 weeks, and the dining area where there may be crumbs is vacuumed/Swiffered at least daily. We have little ones who still crawl around or lie down on the floor while playing, so we try to keep the floors clean enough that we feel comfortable with them doing so. If a guest comes in wearing sneakers that have been on the sidewalk, in mud, grass, etc. and tracks them around the house, that is going to make the floors much, much dirtier, possibly to the point where we will not be able to be comfortable in our house until we clean the entire floor. That also seems like a rather big burden for the visitor to impose on the house owner.

I would maybe chalk it up to a yellow flag, OP, since she did offer a plan to do so going forward. Maybe similar to a nanny who comes to the interview wearing a nice skirt because she wants to look professional, and not realizing she would be meeting the kids who want to play or run with her in a way that's not easy to do in a skirt. Like... a little weird you wouldn't be prepared for that, but people have different life experiences, and we have to be a bit flexible to get along. Just have a long-ish trial period and if there are any other warning flags, find a different person who is more compatible. Getting her house slippers are a good idea.

(And in case it needs to be said, you absolutely have a right to be comfortable in your home, and that means a no-shoes policy if you want! I actually feel really weird walking around in other people's houses in shoes, but have to accept that it would be really weird for me to take them off if no one else does.)[/quote]

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