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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my my dog passed away I’d be heartbroken and would need the day off . Sounds like you’re the one who needs to grow up bashing others for things you don’t agree with![/quote]

While it is more understandable to hear that you had to take a day off for your dog, it still is unprofessional and really immature.
No one needs a day off for grieving an animal!!

My Father passed while I was in finals in college.
While I was in shock and grief, I still studied hard to pass my exams.
Because my father wouldn’t have wanted me to throw away my education.

Grief is real, I truly acknowledge that fact.
But when grief affects your career - then that is a clear sign your priorities are whacked.[/quote]

I'm truly sorry about the loss of your father during exams in college- that sounds super horrific and it takes a great deal of strength to continue studying and passing your exams in the middle of a great loss. I hope others can be inspired to know that loss doesnt have to mean its the end of the road.

With that said, I hope you can see that what you wrote is about you and your personal experience. What others have shared here are their personal experiences and that is alright. Why because when it comes to grief, mental health and the degree to which people can deal with a crisis (regardless of how its gravity is perceived), is an extremely subjective matter. It truly depends on the person and how you deal with crisis on a physical and mental level. It takes working with people struggling with mental health to understand that not everyone deals with grief the SAME way. Sharing your personal experience of how you dealt with grief is great but sharing it to them imply that someone else should have or should deal with their situation the same way is not alright because it minimizes their experience and makes a premature conclusions about the way they dealt with their situation with no consideration about that person's support system, the gravity of their situation and a full picture of that person's choices and life experience which do influence how people deal with mental health crisis such as grief (which no one ever plans for).  To you, someone taking a day off to grieve their cat may seem like a ridiculous way to have their pet affect their career. But do you know that person intimately? No. Come to find out there are people who have pets as their only form of family, love and support through no fault of their own. I dont think we can expect others to deal with grief the same way that we did. I'm not necessarily here to endorse the practice of expecting days off to grieve pets but at the same time I think that before making uninformed judgements about how people deal with this and comparing them to our choices and experiences, it might be wise to take into account the full picture or we would risk making harsh and insensitive unformed judgements thinking we know better and we don't. This is how we read of stories of how a bunch of coworkers judged their coworkers for missing work and taking yet another day off only to find out that in addition to taking a day off for their cat, that person also suffers from high anxiety and they have no support system to help them through the crisis (the cat was their therapy), perhaps they have no family nearby or even at all. This is just an example. From what I have seen, grief affecting someone's career is not always a choice. This is one reason why the state of mental health in this country is not that great. Let's look at things assuming we just may not know the full picture. Warm wishes to all. [/quote]

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