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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Family therapist here.  Agree on much of the above.  Hundreds of patients  over the years who doubted their parents loved them or wanted them, whether true or not.  Used to be that was a common problem about fathers, but the last 20 years has really been more about the moms. Education and experience taught me to only see clients during my  kids' school hours.

And to poster above who mentioned 6:30-6:30 daycare?  Believe me, the kids know why.  They won't tell you, but they tell me. [/quote]

24/7 nanny here.

For some of the kids I‘ve known and loved, it’s not through the custodial parent’s fault.  When one parent walks out, the other parent has to shift focus.  For some that’s working crazy hours just to stay ahead.  For others, it’s having the nanny stay late multiple times per week, while the parent actively looks for a new step-parent for the children.  For others, it’s trying to bury themselves in work to put off dealing with their own emotional turmoil.

In two parent homes, there are parents who are working hard to be able to pay for care for their elderly parents.  Sometimes they’re paying for care for their sibling who is unable to care for themselves.  Sometimes they’re paying off massive student loans, and they’re worried about falling behind if there’s a layoff.  Sometimes they’re close enough to retirement that they need to be socking money away.  Sometimes they’re trying to earn enough to give their kids every opportunity they didn’t have.

And yes, sometimes they’re trying to afford a certain lifestyle, one they couldn’t afford without working crazy hours.  And sometimes certain parents just don’t have the ability to connect well with young kids, but they do quite well with preteens and teens.

It’s foolhardy to state that kids “know” why their parents do things.  As a therapist, one would think you’d understand that plenty of people assume things that are far from the truth, and it’s especially prevalent in children.[/quote]

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