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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who came to this country as an immigrant myself, I would not be so cavalier and break the rules.  I wouldn't put our au pair in the position where she felt that she had to break these rules either. [/quote]

We are upfront about it before matching, we ask how it's going and if she's feeling comfortable with it (as we do about ALL ASPECTS of life and work--we are very sensitive to how brave it is for a young person to try life in another country and language) and all have been not only OK with the situation but enthusiastic. We match with people who are teachers in training and they understand that kids need play. Also what is it that you're imagining is going to happen to au pairs because their host families have a kid over to play? This scenario is so ludicrous I'm scratching my head. Do you think ICE is monitoring the place in our backyard? Seriously, let's find something real to worry about. [/quote]

You are deliberately conflating issues because you know you are wrong. No one is saying don't help kids socialize. They are saying not put your AP at risk of killing someone else's kid in your car OR make her babysit another person's kid. Your AP, instead could drive your kids and only your kids and watch your kids and only your kids while another adult watches the other kids and drives the other kids. Our AP meets other APs all of the time for play dates. She drives, supervises or toddler, and the other AP drives and supervises her toddlers. I would never let some random adult drive my kid or change my kid's diaper. I would never socialize with other parents who would try to exploit my AP by treating her as their babysitter/driver. [/quote]'

I don't know how many of these anti-playdate posts are from the same person but this one is particularly absurd. NO ONE IS ARGUING THAT AU PAIRS SHOULD CARE FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S TODDLERS OR CHANGE DIAPERS. That isn't a play date. This debate is now officially off the rails level stupid. [/quote]

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