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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So sorry OP.
Your Nannies all sound like complete losers to me!

For your next hire - I strongly suggest that you do not contact references until you have met the potential Nanny first.
This way, the Nanny does not exhaust her references.
References are usually contacted as a last step before hire.

(This is just a friendly suggestion...... I personally do not think it has anything to do w/your Nanny issues!)

Do you work from home?
Does your husband??
Perhaps this dynamic is making it harder to get a decent Nanny since the majority of Nannies feel a bit uncomfortable when their charge’s parents are in the home at the same time.

And if you do telecommute, do you interfere w/the Nanny’s autonomy?
Nannies for the most part do not like being micromanaged at all so if you are coming into the room when your child cries for example, it may make the job a tad stressful.

Also if you have cameras set up in your home, this could also cause a Nanny to feel resentful especially if you mention something that you saw on the video that may seem benign.

Finally, are you hiring younger Nannies?
Younger Nannies tend to be on their phones more often & are usually not financially dependent on their job since their parents may still be supporting them.
Older Nannies tend to be more responsible in general.....
They usually have a much better work ethic.

I am basically speculating “possible” reasons.
Just some food for thought here.

If I were you, I would stay away from these online childcare websites where anyone can use the title “Professional Nanny” and choose instead to search for a reliable + responsible person through a good, reputable Nanny agency.

I wish you the best in your search!
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I am a WAHM. I do not have the time or energy to micromanage because while I am home, I am in a private office working.

I have come out on a few occasions which was warranted, my child was crying unconsolably. Twice he had been injured, the first time had had his finger caught in a door and there was blood. The second time he had fallen backwards and hit his head on a hardwood floor! The nanny didn't come to get me either time to notify me or to even ask where the first aid kit is or what she should do.

The third time, the nanny was cleaning and he was sitting in a corner of the room, unattended with dirty clothes and a very full, dirty diaper with caked on poop and the blue line on his diaper had almost turned white with saturation from the pee.

I know this is an unpopular opinion in the nanny community, but there are very few jobs in this world that offer minimal to zero supervision and unfettered access to children. [b]Even outside of my home office in the building where my company is based, my bosses office is two doors down. She observes my interactions with clients and coworkers casually. She critiques my work. She gives me feedback. There is a way to do this without micromanaging. Nannies should know this and employers should be able to give feedback and supervise without seeming overbearing.[/b]

Part of receiving feedback is normal with any job. I do not mromanage, but a nanny *has* to be comfortable with receiving direction and feedback and supervision. It's part of any job. If a nanny has issues with parents being in their home I welcome her to find any job where he or she will never be under any supervision or performance monitoring.[/quote]

I WFH several times a week and I did micromanage sitters, especially in the beginning. I don't care if I came across as overbearing - it’s my kid after all. I have hired three nannies within 7 years, and all three of them keep in touch with me and became friends with each other. I made sure to introduce the new nanny to the former ones, I warned them all that I am demanding and very involved, I sent them to classes, and payed to the best of my abilities. We had our moments, of course, but nothing you've described. [/quote]

I can just imagine the desperate women who worked for you. [/quote]

Oh, you poor thing, there is no need to overwork your imagination - I would not hire you with your attitude. I don’t want you to sleep on the job and get my kids injured. [/quote]

Ma’am you need not worry as I would never accept a position from you. I’m not desperate for work so I don’t have to settle for positions with a neurotic and controlling mother who has been through 3 nannies in 7 years.[/quote]

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