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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have the weekend house dilemma too - I know, its a nice problem to have! It has worked for us to have the AP up there with us often - she likes it.

I tell her a few weeks in advance when I want her to work on a weekend up in the mountains - this usually means just a Saturday night babysit.  I also limit my requests to once a month - two in an extraordinary month.  Otherwise, I give her the option to come with us and sometimes she does, sometimes she doesn't.

Another idea that has worked is to take two cars up there, and allow her to drive herself back after her work time is done - we have done this on a long weekend when we ask her to come up Friday, work Saturday and send her on her way (if she so chooses) in the second car Sunday morning. 
 
If you are with CCAP she will be aware of the 1.5 days off rule... she could use that against you if you push too hard.[/quote]

Well, we only have one car. With previous au pairs I’ve sometimes dropped them at the train so they can take it back to do something with friends but that’s only been when we’ve been up there for a longer time.

I thought by discussing the rest of the weekends this month it would be considered “in advance” enough. I am going to have a chat with her since a lot of her child-related duties like tidying up and laundry have slipped a lot (and she had 2 extra weeks of vacation). [/quote]

Each of those is a separate thing.

Going on the weekend trips is one thing.  You need to pay for her to come out and be there at the time you want, then pay for her to go back.

Not doing kid laundry is her chore.  Tackle it as an expectation, set aside tome in the week for it.

Not having kids clean up is partly on her, partly on you.  Have a family sit down and communicate to everyone that they need to clean up after themselves.  If your kids aren’t in school yet, she should be helping, but if they’re school age, they should be picking up after themselves.

She is entitled to two vacation weeks per year.  You allowed her to take them, so now they’re out of the way.  Her vacation doesn’t have a thing to do with anything else.[/quote]

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