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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok... need some more advice as to how to proceed. DH said AP was not helpful this weekend or this morning, she stands around a lot playing with her hair, waiting to be told what to do rather than being at all proactive. DH's words were "just taking up space and needs instructions for everything".[/quote]

Then DH needs to be proactive, include her and tell her what needs to be done. It's been two weeks. TWO! She obviously has no idea what is expected from her. Yes, some APs just 'click' with their families, hit the ground running and don't need much to do a good job. Obviously, yours is not hitting the ground running. She cannot read your minds. Tell her what needs to be done. If she has no clue what needs to be done you need to train her.

"AP, please make Larlo's breakfast and help him get ready for the day. He needs his teeth brushed and he needs to make his bed."
"AP, please clean the table and put everything in the dishwasher."
"AP, please unload the dryer and fold the kids' towels. The grey towels go into the soccer bag."

Yes, it's easier for you or DH to just do it yourself. Because you know what needs to be done and how you want it done.
She doesn't. And you are obviously not providing her with the necessary tools if she is just standing there, playing with her hair. She is insecure, she is anxious, she has no idea what to do, hence the hair playing. Train her or rematch her so that she can find a family that suits her personality better.[/quote]

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