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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly I am wondering if they feel that you are over-involved and want a care provider who has a little more professional detachment.[/quote]

You sound like an idiot. Find another thread to be rude in. If I have ever been “over involved” it’s due to me having to be because I managed their kids lives for 3 years and had to be while they worked 53 hours a week and traveled around the country  for work simultaneously. Sorry I’m not a cold bitch.[/quote]

Ignore her, OP.  She is just bitter and ugly.  [/quote]

I have been a nanny for 12 years.  My current job I have been in for 4 years.  My first shift with both children was their first night home from the hospital.  I work 65-70 hours every week.  I am the first face they see 5 mornings a week and I do everything but the last 10 minutes of bedtime.  I am responsible for every aspect of their lives to some extent or another. And I love the children deeply and think about them and worry about them over the weekends, but there is a lot in your OP that sounds off to me.  You sound kind of territorial and defensive of the importance of your role.  If you take these kinds of jobs with semi-absentee parents, you really have to accept deep down in your heart that they are the parents and their role is more important in the long run and it is your job to build that relationship and connection, not to supplant them or judge them. Because at some point the parents will come to resent what feels to them like backseat driving.

I am really sorry that they handled this in such an abrupt way.  I know how it feels to leave a nanny family on good terms, so I can only imagine what it must be to leave in an awkward and unprepared way.  I am not trying to put you down.  It sounds like you were a loving and dedicated carwgiver to these children under trying circumstances.

My point is this: you are about to search for a new family to work with and build an entirely new relationship with a new parent or set of parents.  This is a good time to be reflective about what went wrong here.  Almost everything is a two-way street.  And if you want to be successful and happy as a nanny long-term, you need to always remember that your relationship and care for the parents is just as important as the relationship and care for the children.[/quote]

You sound like an amazing nanny, but that is just so sad about the parents. Why even have children? [/quote]

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