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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you take them to practices?  If so, one each per season is plenty.  To the MB, we aren't talking about what the parents require but about the relationship with the kids.  Whether or not you care about the nanny, she may be important to your kids and they may value having her present in their lives beyond the scope of a paycheck.[/quote]

If the nanny I employed showed up at my kids' events uninvited and outside of their working hours that would be weird and uncomfortable. I care about our childrens' nanny, and it's unclear why you extrapolated otherwise. [/quote]

Sure you care about her in that you want her to be happy as long as she's not too close to you kids.  With whom she spends her days.  Yep.  That seems possible.

Even my former charges still occasionally invite me to their events.  Why on Earth would it be uncomfortable?  If you are THAT uncomfortable spending time with you children's caregiver in an unpaid capacity, then you need a new nanny (because you don't get along with the current one) or you need to stay home (because you don't understand and value the role of a nanny).[/quote]

NP.  I'll be honest, our former nanny was very different from us.  I didn't really want her coming to an event like a kid's game where I'm spending the time with my friends.  She was invited to our kids' birthday parties and did attend, but I was so busy during those it's not like I was sitting around just hanging out.  Our current nanny is very much like us and I invite her to things and she either attends or doesn't based on her schedule and interest.  Maybe it helps that she is friends with our friends' nannies so it just seems so much more natural to have her around.  Our old nanny was very good at taking care of our kids, but socially we had nothing in common with her, so if she came to a game I'd feel obligated to sit there and talk to her and then not enjoy chatting with my friends instead.  For what it's worth, she cared for our kids when they were younger, so they never had sporting events or anything like that to attend.  They did have preschool performances but she never asked to attend those even though she knew when they were and frankly it didn't occur to me to invite her.  Our current nanny wants to attend school stuff.  All that to say, both nannies were very qualified and well-paid but they were different people with whom we clicked on different levels.  I think it's possible to have a good working relationship with someone that you don't want to spend time with socially.  I get along great with my boss but have no desire to hang out with him on the weekends.  So you need to shake the chip off your shoulder, relax, and consider that there are many types of nanny/parent relationships that can work well for all involved without needing to have an off-the-clock component as well.[/quote]

Let me be honest too.  If you tried to socialize with me beyond basic pleasantries when I’m there to cheer on and encourage my charge at a game/meet/tournament, I’d be uncomfortable too.  I socialize a little at practice, but I’m also looking for ways to help my charge improve.  At the actual game, I’m there to take pictures and videos of successes and things to improve, and to let me charge know that they mean enough to me that I’m willing to give up part of my (very limited!) free time to cheer them on doing something they love.[/quote]

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