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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know I shouldn’t be, but I am shocked by the judgment here. If money is no concern to you, i urge you to be grateful and humble, because it could all change on a dime. We all make our choices. Please consider whether it’s kind and helpful for you to tell others what they should and shouldn’t be doing with their money. The ability to pay more does not make anyone a better person or morally better than anyone else. [/quote]

I didn’t get this from the responses. I got that if you can not afford the extra expense(s) then it’s time to look into other childcare options. Ruling an AP out bc they want pics of the house and rooms seems super petty. You wouldn’t book a hotel or Airbnb without looking at the pics first. The idea seems to be that if an AP is asking for pics then they will want other perks. You feel bad bc you cannot offer the perks other families can and justify that by judging the AP as superficial. Then claiming that the program is expensive and act like you are doing the AP a favor by just hiring them. [/quote]

This, and pretending that anyone was equating paying more with being morally superior is just your insecurity showing. The point is that people who can’t actually afford the program are putting themselves in a risky situation financially. I started a thread on how much extra people pay above and beyond the program fee and stipend in hopes would-be families who can’t actually afford all the extras would see it. I do think people get blindsided by some of it. And then they get resentful of other families in the program, which is silly. [/quote]

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