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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So my son didn't have a great day yesterday.  He's 9. He was whiny/sassy yesterday, but not crazy, over-the-top from what the au pair told us. Some things she needs to let roll off her back and others she needs to give him a consequence and follow through. And he did apologize to her before the end of the day -- without a parent demanding it.  Not saying that excuses everything, but he recognized his behavior and apologized, which is pretty good for 9. 
I told her I would talk to him, which I did this morning.  I tried to give her some strategies as well. 
Then she drops, if this continues, I don't know if I want to stay for 5 more months. 
I said I think we need to calm the conversation down a bit.
We've had other au pairs, but this is the first time we have gotten this far into our year and still fear that the au pair may pull up and leave. (There's that first month or two where they are adjusting, getting past homesickness and cultural changes, but then things settle). 
Do we just have a sit down conversation and try to get her to commit? How do you handle that kinda bomb.  Just a long frustrating day for her too  so pump her up and tell her she can do it.
We already have our next au pair lined up so it becomes finding someone that fits in the time frame.  
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What do you mean by whiny/sassy?[/quote]

I don't tolerate whining or sassing.  Perhaps she needs better tools.  If a child whines, I don't hear them until the tone is back in the normal range.  Sassing means losing privileges.  However, they're welcome to ask me why things need to be done at any time, and they also know that if I don't specifically say that something needs to be done immediately, it can wait.[/quote]

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