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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think your weekly rate is terrible, but that really is a lot of hours.

The PP talking about $34 is referring to the amount of your suggested weekly raise (from 1096 to 1130). I agree that $34/week is a terrible raise considering it is meant to cover both an annual raise and a raise for an additional child.[/quote]

+1 I think you need to up her base hourly pay by at least $1/hr; really $1.50/hr would be better. I also think, regardless of her pay, you should give her another 3-5 days of PTO of her choice off per year so she can take a couple personal days or a slightly longer vacation to recharge throughout the year. Three kids including a newborn, even if the other two are in preschool most of the time, for over 50 hours a week will be very stressful for her, and she needs to feel appreciated and well compensated to stick around for another couple of years. [/quote]

Thanks for this. I will consider the PTO as well. She is EXTREMELY reliable, so this seems like a nice thing to do as well.

Part of the problem here is that DH doesn't think being a nanny really is that hard. I don't know if anyone can relate to this issue with their DHs. I don't think being a nanny is backbreaking labor, but I still distinctly remember how hectic just two kids in the evening was for me when DH was working late, older child was a volatile 3, and younger child was a baby. And, they're my kids, so if I ignore crying or lose my cool from time to time, that's not ideal but whatever. I'm sure my nanny, who is a cooler cucumber than me anyway, feels differently because it is her job.[/quote]

I suggest you send your nanny on vacation for a week as soon as school starts, hand your DH a detailed list of what your nanny does every day plus a baby he has to hold or feed or wear or try to soothe for 10+ hours a day and ask him how he feels in 5 days. Then give a dollar an hour raise for every time a child was late getting somewhere or the baby cried for more than 5 minutes.

I bet your nanny would double her rate in no time.

Seriously OO. Do yourself and your nanny a favor and leave your DH alone for a weekend with no access to screens or a car and make him parent hardcore. See if he changes his tune.  [/quote]

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