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[quote=Anonymous]Then DH needs to solve this problem, OP. What is his cheaper solution? To just not give your nanny a raise?

I do think you've created an expensive situation with your set of nonnegotiables: a particular, full day preschool, in order to have sibling preference for a particular private elementary school + a nanny who works over 50 hours a week and is already compensated well.

On a certain level, I agree with your DH -- we all can't have everything. On the other hand, the last person who needs to fix your financial issue is your nanny, and you have the money, you'd just rather not spend it.

As far as "selling" it to your DH, I think you need to show him when and how this ends, and what the total additional cost of a raise will be over that time (the marginal cost of a good raise). Once DC #3 is in school, what are your before/after care/vacation plans? Can you promise the nanny expense has an end date? Because I'm guessing he's now multiplying by 3 what he was originally multiplying by 2, and also thinking, "what if there's a #4 in three years?"[/quote]

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