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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm really surprised by all of the nannies who think that a one time request like this is unreasonable. OP -- Do you know why the charge wanted to FaceTime you?

My kid really wanted to tell my nanny something over a weekend. (It had to do with a backyard "project" they'd worked on together.) I texted my nanny to ask if it would be OK if kid FaceTimed her for 2 minutes. She immediately FaceTimed us. Kid blurted out the info, nanny indicated her excitement (probably partially feigned, but I think she was excited that kid was so excited) and they talked for maybe 90 seconds? I then shot her a text saying "Sorry for bothering you, kid was just so excited to tell you about it!" It never occurred to me that she might really resent this -- and I sincerely hope she doesn't. She occasionally texts me over the weekend with questions/requests and I certainly don't resent it. I interact with her/am respectful of her time just like I would be with a colleague or with my boss, which I would have thought was a reasonable standard?[/quote]

Your nanny more than likely thinks you are weird and don't respect her boundaries.  You can think what you like but she will say it's fine and smile while thinking you are crazy and intrusive because you are her boss. You should've told your child to wait. What is wrong with some of you parents? Can you all not tell your kids no or not right now!? My God your kid can't get through a weekend without telling your nanny something and lean on you?[/quote]

My kid is 2.5. Yes, I absolutely could have told her to wait, but she was really excited and it was something that wouldn't have lasted until Monday, so nanny couldn't have seen it otherwise. (She obviously doesn't actually realize that the nanny is our family's employee as opposed to part of our family and, at 2.5, I think that's a good thing, so other than asking her to wait for its own sake, I don't think there's any useful lesson for her here.) In any case, I raised this issue with our nanny last night and she looked at me like I had two heads. She assumed I was trying to tactfully tell her not to text us over the weekend and started to apologize for intruding on our time. I hastily assured her that was not at all the case and explained the background. She said she was happy to hear from us when special things happened over the weekend and that, just as I am occasionally sad when I miss my daughter's firsts (however minor they might be), she's also sad when she misses those things and certainly wants to see/hear about them ASAP. So, MBs, if you have a relationship w/ your nannies where you are surprised at what's in this thread... trust your guts.[/quote]

She said those things because you are her boss and she doesn't want you to pick up on the fact that she thinks you all are strange and have no boundaries.[/quote]

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