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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't been on in a few weeks and I'm sad I missed this post!

I always thought I wanted to be a mom, but then I nannied for an amazing family in college (7 years ago) and they really changed my mind. It has absolutely nothing to do with the kids or amount of stuff that comes along with kids, but the toll kids can take on a relationship. I see it in them still (haven't worked for them in 4 years but still keep in contact) as well as my brother and sister in law, and no matter how much you say "we will still be the same people after kids" you never are. I see how much having kids has changed the relationship between spouses and that is what scares me the most. I want to enjoy my husband, and like him and really appreciate him and our relationship, and I also really think I'm too selfish to have kids of my own.

That said, right now I'm in a relationship and I have no doubt in my mind that I will spend the rest of my life with this man, and for whatever reason I have such a strong desire to share a baby with him. Not anytime soon, but someday. I imagine our life together and it's hard to imagine without a small human on the couch with us. Scares the shit out of me!!!![/quote]

I am a nanny with a 3 month old. Honestly it does take some time to adjust and we are still adjusting. For the most part our relationship is great, and I feel a strong connection to him still, but I also carry more resentment. He's decent about helping out, but certain things I find myself doing more often (baths, bottle washing for example). So that is mainly what we argue about now. I wouldn't change it for the world though. Don't let it hold you back. You can always just have one child, it's not too hard. [/quote]

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